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If you want to achieve anything in life it will require that you possess a killer combination of sheer willpower, determination, and desire.

When it comes to personal development and dating, I understand how important it is for men to develop the communication and confidence skills that are necessary in order to attract a partner into their lives. 

When I was 21 years old I started a dating coaching business, that was designed to help men overcome the confidence challenges that I had faced in my own life.

That is why I wanted to invite Eddy Baller, a men's personal development and dating coach, to write a guest post to talk about 5 areas of life where persistence pays off.

Take it away Eddy!

I want to share with you 5 areas of life where persistence pays off. How many of us have embarked on a new journey to accomplish something big, only to become disillusioned and quit when it didn’t work out?

The human mind is notoriously bad at making time predictions for complicated goals. Even showing up on time seems to be a challenge for some people. “I have time, I’ll just finish a few emails…”  

The biggest challenges in life usually require a lot of time, and it’s hard to predict how much time. The key ingredient which separates the cream of the crop is persistence – the raw determination and grit that comes from sticking to your goals.

Eddy Baller is a dating and confidence coach who helps men learn how to overcome shyness. Feel free to contact directly with questions, thoughts, or coaching inquiries – eddy@conquerandwin.com

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It's one thing to set goals, but actually accomplishing them takes commitment, energy, discipline, and hard work. When we don't see results fast enough, it is easy to lose our motivation and fall into a negative thinking trap.

All of us have personal goals that we want to master, but many people become easily distracted by shiny objects or new ideas. The result is that they end up jumping from opportunity to opportunity, without accomplishing anything.

Accountability is an inside job. If you want to create positive change in your life, you need to take responsibility for the decisions that you make. In the words of Stephen Covey, “Accountability breeds response-ability.”

Are you ready to learn 3 ways to hold yourself accountable to your goals?

Do you want to have the support of a mentor who will hold you accountable to your goals every month? CLICK HERE to join my Life Mastery Accelerator program!

1. Find An Accountability Partner

When you are accountable to others, you are more likely to follow-through on your goals. Conversely, when you don't have someone in your corner, cheering you on and checking-up on you, it is easy to make excuses for why you can't accomplish something.

The American Society of Training and Development (ASTD) did a study on accountability and found that you if you have a specific accountability appointment with a person that you’ve committed to, you will increase your chance of success by up to 95%.

An accountability partner, like a coach or a mentor, can give you the motivation that you need in order to take action when you are not where you want to be in life. 

George Matthew Adams said it best – ““There is no such thing as a ‘self-made’ man. We are made up of thousands of others. Everyone who has ever done a kind deed for us, or spoken one word of encouragement to us, has entered into the make-up of our character and of our thoughts, as well as our success.”

2. Develop Good Habits

If you want to achieve your goals, you need to commit to developing good habits. In doing so, it primes your brain for success. Research shows that the best way to improve your overall health and well-being is to start a new regular habit.

The most effective way to transform your goals into habits is to create a morning ritual. In the morning, you have the most willpower at your disposal, and so your motivation is at its peak.

Accountability is about willpower, and willpower is similar to a muscle. If it's possible for muscles to get stronger over time with training, willpower can do the same. In the words of Joshua Miller, “Personal accountability isn’t a trait that people are born with, it’s a way of living that you can learn.”

3. Find Your Purpose 

Finding your purpose is a critical element to achieving your goals and experiencing fulfillment in life. By nature, having a purpose breeds accountability.

When you are living your purpose and doing what you love, you naturally want to be accountable to yourself and others because you are committed to something greater than yourself.

Write your purpose down, and read it out loud to yourself every day. When you do so, it will inspire you to stay committed to your goals and take action.

I challenge you to try out these 3 ways to hold yourself accountable to your goals. At the end of the day, mastering any goal in life requires that you make a conscious commitment to take action. It all starts and ends with you.

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Yet, most people don't have a life coach.  They resist it.  They think that they can “do it on their own” and often aren't willing to make that investment in themselves.  In my opinion, this is a trap that most people fall into that holds them back from having massive success in their lives.  It's something that held me back for years, and if I could go back in time, I would have immediately found a life coach at the start of my journey.  It would have saved me so much stress, time, and money in the long-run.  I'm thankful I've learned my lessons now and have had several coaches and mentors in my life.

I recorded a video the other day talking about “Why You Need A Life Coach” and the many benefits having a life coach has had in my life over the years.  I can say that having a coach has always been one of the greatest investments I've ever made in my life, and has as a result improved my life in multiple ways.  I wouldn't be running a successful business for over 5 years without a life coach.  There's no way I would be making a passive income online without a life coach.  No chance of competing in the WBFF Fitness Modelling competition.  And of course, I wouldn't be anywhere close to where I am in every other aspect of life.

Watch the video below on Why You Need A Life Coach:

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In that video, I share many of the moments that my life has changed because of having a life coach or mentor.  Having a coach instilled a certain level of confidence in me and I was able to get little ideas, once acted upon, transformed my life for the better.

7 Reasons Why You Need A Life Coach

Below I want to share with you 7 Reasons Why You Need A Life Coach.

1. Having A Life Coach Makes You More Accountable.

This is one of the biggest things that can help you by having a life coach.  You all of a sudden become more accountable to follow through on whatever you're procrastinating on or stopping yourself from doing.  We all place limits on ourselves.  We all have limiting beliefs and patterns that are holding us back, preventing us from fulfilling our true potential.  When you have a life coach that is there to push you beyond your limits and what you thought was possible, a breakthrough happens.  Your entire belief system changes, and you take your life to another level.

Not only that, but most of us already KNOW WHAT TO DO… BUT DON'T DO WHAT WE KNOW.  A life coach is someone that gets you to do it.  They're all about taking massive action. No stories. No B.S. Only action and results.  Without a coach, you're only accountable to yourself – and that's the problem for most people.  When you're only accountable to yourself, you can come up with stories and excuses of why you didn't do it.  With a coach, none of that stuff flies and suddenly you're accountable to another human being, which forces you to show up at a higher level.

2. Having A Life Coach Saves You Time And Gets You Faster Results.

Time is the most scarce resource that exists.  You can always make more money, but you can't get more time.  Yet, when we attempt to do things on our own we're taking the long route and wasting that time away.  This is simply because we don't know the path ahead and what to expect.

Think of going after a goal is like being stuck in the middle of the jungle, trying to reach a specific destination.  When you're doing things on your own, you're struggling your way through, getting lost, and frustrated.  Maybe you have a map, but you don't know whether it's the fastest way as you've never made it there before.

Now, what if I told you that I could give you a GPS system that has the fastest, most efficient way through the jungle to reach your destination?  Not only that, but if you get lost, there will be a helicopter that comes and picks you up and makes sure that you get there.  How much time would you save?  How much frustration, stress, and anxiety would you not have to go through because you already have a proven map?  How much more enjoyable would the process be?  This is what having a coach is like.  They can give you the map because they've already been there before, therefor saving you a significant amount of time and get there that much  faster.  They know all the short-cuts, and they are there for you if you get lost to point you in the right direction.

3. Having A Life Coach Saves You Money.

When I first started a business, I had no clue what I was really doing.  I thought I did, because I was reading books and consuming resources, but I still had no clue.  Not having a clue what you're doing essentially means you're leaving a whole whack of money on the table that you could be making.  That was the case for me.  Not only that, but I was spending and wasting money in all the wrong areas, that wasn't producing a return on investment.  When I hired a business coach, he told me exactly what I needed to be doing and I listened.  It was as simple as that.  He gave me ideas I never thought of before, and made me BELIEVE that I could do it.  As a result, I ended up making much more money.

When I committed to transforming my body, I was trying to do it on my own.  I was following programs that I found on the internet or heard from others, and was buying all the supplements and “magic potions” that are advertised in all the magazines and online. I was throwing my money away, looking for the fastest way to my goal, without really knowing what I was doing.  The first fitness coach I hired was Wade Lightheart, who is a 3-time Canadian national bodybuilding champion and competed in Mr. Universe.  The impressive thing was, he did it all as a vegetarian, which is unheard of in bodybuilding.  I followed his program, did exactly what I said, and I got results.

For my WBFF Fitness Modelling competition, I hired Dr. Joe Klemczewski who helps athlete's “peak” for fitness shows.  Before I worked with him, I was doing everything wrong.  I was wasting money on fat-burners and cutting calories far beyond what I should have.  I had totally carb depleted myself and was doing what I saw other people doing on the internet, without knowing what would specifically work for me.  It was very painful and frustrating.  I ended up losing a lot of muscle mass that I had worked so hard to attain (and invested a lot of money with food and supplements to build), and I ended up hitting rock bottom and developing an eating disorder.  I had become a binge eater and became addicted to junk food.  Every 2-3 days I would go on a binge where I would consume a large pizza, a tub of ice cream, chocolate bars, cookies, and donuts – all in one sitting.  It was disgusting, and probably one of the most painful experiences of my life.  I was throwing away my money on junk, while destroying my hard-earned body and precious well-being.  When I hired Dr. Joe Klemczewski, everything changed.  He was able to put me on a nutrition program that was really easy for me to follow, that got me better results than I could have ever dreamed of.  That was one of the smartest decisions I've ever made.

I can go on and on with so many other stories and experiences, but overall, I've saved thousands upon thousands of dollars by investing in a coach.  When people say, “I can't afford a life coach”, my answer always is, “You can't afford NOT to have one.”

4. Having A Life Coach Saves You Stress, Pain And Frustration.

I've already somewhat mentioned above how having a life coach will save you stress and frustration.  Why try to re-invent the wheel?  It's already been invented and it'll be so much easier to just learn from someone that knows what they're doing.  The stress, pain and frustration that you'll go through trying to figure things out on your own isn't worth it.  Trust me.

5. Having A Life Coach Gives You Ideas You Never Thought Of.

I mentioned in my video above how when I was in Southeast Asia I was working to build a passive income business online.  I was making $30 a month from one of my websites, trying to do things on my own.  I ended up hiring a coach from the WarriorForum, which is an internet marketing forum.  During my first coaching call with this guy, he immediately gave me an idea that I had never thought of before.  I told him every reason why it wouldn't work, which was just my limiting beliefs.

That coach ended up explaining to me why it would work and I trusted him, so I did it.  The result?  That website went from making $30 a month to $300 a month passive income.  That was over 2 years ago.  Today, that one little idea that my coach got me to take action on has made me thousands of dollars without having to do anything.  Was it worth it?  You bet.

“The significant problems we face can not be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.”
Albert Einstein

6. Having A Life Coach Gives You Insights Into Yourself.

I've learned so much about myself throughout the years by having a coach or mentor.  One of the most valuable things are the lessons and insights you get about yourself.  You're always getting feedback and discovering more about yourself in the process.  With the hundreds of clients that I've coached over the years, there are always patterns or behaviours that I notice that they aren't even aware of.  Sometimes it's a story or limiting belief that they keep telling themselves again and again, which is holding them back.  Other times, it's a way that they carry themselves, their body language or a subtle way that they're communicating that is putting people off, preventing them from having success in their relationships with the opposite sex.  These patterns are often so ingrained in us, that they become unconscious.  We're unaware of it.

A coach is able to point these things out and help you become aware of them, so that you can change them.  Often it's the little things that make a massive difference.  I've seen incredible transformations within people just by making small changes to their way of thinking or how they are showing up.  Most people you're around on a daily basis won't point out these things to you or give you feedback, but a good coach does.  A good coach cares and is always honest with you.

7. Having A Life Coach Gives You A Stronger Sense Of Belief And Self-Confidence.

There are so many ways that we limit and hold ourselves back.  There's things that we WANT to do, but often aren't doing simply because we don't have the belief or confidence in ourselves.  When my coach proposed to me that I compete in a fitness show, I was hesitant.  I didn't believe that I could do it, and thought it took a certain type of person with a level of discipline and commitment to make something like that happen.  The truth is, I was scared.  I let my fear consume me, and was lacking the confidence in myself that I could do it.

My coach made me aware of this limiting pattern and made me realize what I'm truly capable of.  He believed in me, which gave me a strong level of belief and self-confidence within myself.  As a result, I've gained so much in the process to competing in a fitness show.  It's been one of the best decisions I've ever made, simply because I've grown so much as a human being throughout the journey.  I've had to step up and raise my standards to an entirely new level.

The Best In The World Have A Coach… So Why Wouldn't You?

The best of the best have a coach.  The best golfer in the world, Tiger Woods, has a coach.  Michael Jordan, the best basketball player of all time, had a coach.  Barack Obama has coaches and advisors in his life.  Wayne Gretzky.  Lance Armstrong.  Oprah Winfrey.  Donald Trump.  Bill Gates.  Warren Buffet.  Richard Branson.  Tony Robbins.  Arnold Schwarzenegger.  Many of the top entertainers, musicians, performers, entrepreneurs, investors, and leaders on this planet have coaches. Successful people have coaches.

Let me ask you, does Tiger Woods need a coach?  Does Michael Jordan need a coach?  Of course not!  But, by having a coach, they are able to have the edge.  They are able to get MORE out of themselves than they ever could on their own.  Both Tiger Woods and Michael Jordan often talk about the coaches they've had and the influence they've had in their lives.

The reality is, people that are successful had coaches, mentors and role models along the way.  Nobody did it on their own.  People that think “I can do it on my own” will never make it.  It's a limiting belief – a story they tell themselves again and again, that is preventing them from having success.

It's the same thing when people say, “I can't afford it.”  It's such a B.S. story!  Whenever someone says that they can't afford something or don't have the money, it's NEVER a matter of money.  It always comes down to how committed they really are.  If you are committed to something, you will find the way to make it happen.  Think about it, if someone had a gun to your head and said “I need you to come up with $1000 by the end of the month or I will shoot you”, I'm 100% certain that you would find a way to come up with the money.  It's because you are committed to it.  It's that same level of urgency and commitment that you need to have in every other area of your life if you want to succeed.

There's been many times in my life where I couldn't afford a coach, or to attend a seminar, or to do something I wanted to do.  But I didn't let the belief of “I can't afford it” hold me back.  Instead, my belief has always been “I make the money for whatever I'm committed to.”  And guess what?  I always have.  I've always found a way to be resourceful and come up with the money.

There was a time when I wanted to travel to New York to attend a seminar.  I couldn't afford it.  Did I let that stop me?  No way.  What did I do?  I ended up putting together a car wash fundraiser event, got a bunch of my friends and family to come out, and held up signs that said “Fundraiser Car Wash By Donation”.  We spent an afternoon washing cars and I ended up making $800 in a day and paying for my entire trip.  It's because I was committed and resourceful.

The truth is, you can't afford not having a coach in your life.  It's costing you already way too much in your life.

I know that this is a long-winded article with a video and everything, and if you've made it this far, I can tell that you're clearly committed to having a better life.  If you weren't, you wouldn't be reading this!  It's great that you're reading this, but nothing changes until you take action.  I challenge you to take immediate action on applying what you learned in this article and video.  Find a coach immediately.  You won't regret it.  It'll be one of the best decisions you ever make in your life.

If you're interested in hiring me as your coach, I am happy to speak to you further about it.  Coaching has always been a passion of mine and I've been fortunate to have worked with hundreds of men and women from around the world.  I currently have clients that I continue coaching for over a year now and have helped people get incredible results in their life.  You can click here to contact me about coaching.  But it doesn't have to be me.  Find someone, ANYONE that you can help you get the results you want in your life.

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