Do you want to learn how to build confidence so that you can attract the woman of your dreams?

I believe that confidence is one of the most attractive qualities that someone can have. Research has confirmed that men and women rate confidence as a very attractive trait in a potential partner. Confident men are comfortable in their masculinity. They know who they are and they own it.

They don't have to be loud in order to be noticed by women because their presence takes over the room, just by being themselves. In short, confidence is sexy. If confidence is such an attractive trait to a woman, then why do so many men struggle with it?

I'm here to tell you why and how you can build the confidence that women desire. A wise person once said, “Self-confidence is the most attractive quality a person can have. How can anyone see how great you are if you can't see it yourself?”

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If you are reading this, I'm assuming that you want to learn how to build confidence with women.

As men, we all want to be confident with women, but not all of us are. What a lot of people fail to realize is that confidence is a trait that is developed. No one is born with confidence.

The dating world is really complex and it puts a lot of pressure on men to show up and be the prince charming that every woman is looking for. Men are fed a lot of strategies on how to pick up women, but oftentimes these strategies turn out to be tricks and gimmicks that are far from authentic.

They may work in the short-term and get you a few dates, here and there. However, this is not the way that you will attract a partner into your life and create a long-lasting relationship. A lot of men are only left feeling burnt out and tired of the dating game. They may get rejected so many times that they think, “What is the point? I'll never find anyone.” This mindset only serves to lower their self-esteem even further.

R. Don Steele, the author of the book, Body Language Secrets: A Guide during Courtship and Dating says that the desire is evolutionary and that females want someone who’s not going to run from a fight, a man who is confident in his ability to provide and protect.” 

Some men think that they need to fork out a cheesy pick-up line or interrupt a woman's conversation so that they will be ‘noticed' for their efforts. These advances only make women feel uncomfortable, annoyed, and at times, insulted.

Lacking confidence is a horrible feeling.

When you are around an attractive woman, do you feel nervous, anxious or intimidated? So much so that you stumble over your words and end up running the other way for fear that a woman is going to see through your insecurities?

I can relate to this because I used to struggle with low self-confidence for many years. When I was younger I was extremely shy and introverted. Let's just say that meeting women was not my forte. I tried everything and anything to get a girlfriend, but women just wouldn't give me the time of day.

If I did manage to meet an attractive woman, I would be too nervous to even talk to her, which would turn her off altogether. I was a sensitive and caring guy. I didn't understand. Isn't that what women love in a man?

But I was missing that golden trait known as, confidence.

I started to realize that this wasn't just a problem that I was dealing with. Other men that I knew were struggling to meet and attract women as well. At 21 years old, I decided to build Lifestyle Transformations, a dating coaching business for men. I hosted dozens of seminars and events and coached thousands of men on how to build confidence and attract women into their life.

From personal experience and my work with other men, I've found that the #1 reason why men lack confidence when it comes to women is fear of failure. Fear stops men from being the man that a woman needs and desires.

So, where does this fear come from?

We live in a culture where masculinity is associated with toughness and aggressiveness. As a result, being a sensitive and caring man can be frowned upon or seen as “weak.” What do you think this does to a man's self-esteem? It can definitely lead them to believe that they aren't manly enough.

According to research, there are 11 masculine norms that embody what it means to be a man: winning, emotional control, risk-taking, violence, power over women, dominance, playboy lifestyle, self-reliance, the primacy of work, disdain for homosexuals, and the pursuit of status. However, what about the men that are quiet, sensitive and introverted? They matter too.

Just because they don't fit into one of the above personality types, doesn't mean that they aren't a real man.

When I was younger, I spent a lot of time with my Mom and sister. As a result, I took on more feminine traits, like sensitivity, empathy, and vulnerability. Unfortunately, this meant that I was missing the masculine energy that so many women are drawn to. My Dad and I didn't have a strong relationship when I was growing up. In a lot of ways, I feared him, so I tended to veer away from stereotypical masculine activities.

After a lot of rejection from women, I started to notice that something needed to change. I began engaging in activities like martial arts, which allowed me to embrace my inner masculine. When I did, my physical appearance started to change, my confidence boosted and not surprisingly, I became more attractive to women.

The fact of the matter is that a woman likes a man that can take charge and that isn't afraid to say how they feel.

David Klow, a Chicago based Psychotherapist states that “women like direct men the same way a salsa dancer likes a good lead. When there are clarity and direction, she feels relaxed. If she can’t trust his movements, they step on one another’s toes. If he is direct and clear in his leadership, however, everyone wins.”

Confidence doesn't magically happen overnight. You've got to do the work to be attractive to women, every single day. Confidence is a mindset.

Let's explore 4 things that you can do in order to build your confidence and attract the woman of your dreams.

1. Take Care Of Your Body 

Let's face it… women love a man that takes care of his body. This is one of the most effective ways to build self-confidence. When you look great, you feel great, and that package can be extremely attractive to the opposite sex. More importantly, exercise supports mental well-being.

In this study, men with the highest levels of physical activity, cardio fitness, and muscular strength experienced less stress than those who notched lower levels. They also scored higher on tests of “mental resources”—how energetic, capable, and confident they felt about their daily tasks.

I'm not saying that you need to look like Hercules, but physical attraction does matter when it comes to first impressions. Pay attention to your appearance, in a way that builds your self-esteem. Hit the gym, lift some weights and watch your confidence skyrocket when you start getting the attention from women that you have been seeking.

2. Dress For Success

You only have one opportunity to make a great first impression. Have you ever thought about the message that your clothes give off to other women? What you wear says a lot about who you are and what matters or doesn't matter to you. Women pick up on this kind of stuff.

In her book, You Are What You Wear: What Your Clothes Reveal About You, clinical psychologist Dr. Jennifer Baumgartner talks about a phenomenon she calls the “psychology of dress.” She explains not only how psychology determines our clothing choices, but how to overcome key psychological issues your wardrobe might be bringing to light in your everyday life.

If you want to attract a woman at a bar, would you wear ratty jeans and a wrinkled shirt? No. You would dress for success! You don't have to go all out in order to look good. Find a style that represents who you are and pick clothes that convey the message that you want to send to women.

This is a great way to start building your confidence and feeling comfortable in your own skin.

3. Work On Your Verbal & Non-Verbal Communication

When it comes to dating and attracting a woman, communication is key. This is where a lot of men get stuck. If you lack self-confidence, your body language is going to show it.

Men that are shy and nervous tend to make themselves appear smaller by looking down, crossing their arms, and curling their shoulders inwards. Not only is this behavior not attractive to women, but it also sends the message, “I'm closed off and don't want to talk to you.”

Your posture affects the way that you feel. Work on standing tall, with your shoulders back and your head, held high. You will immediately feel more confident by doing something as simple as changing your posture.

When it comes to communicating with a woman, keep steady eye contact with her and actively listen to what she has to say. Ask her questions about herself and don't try to overtake the conversation. Compliment her on her sense of humor or intelligence. The focus is on being genuine and authentic.

A woman can smell cheese from a mile away. However, if she feels that you are being sincere, you will be acknowledged for it.

4. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

This is how to build confidence and attract the woman of your dreams.

The woman of your dream is out there, waiting for you. However, she's not going to magically show up at your doorstep. You need to do the work in order to be attractive to her, so do it. In the words of Larry Winget, “Be confident. There is no one who is not attracted to confidence. Women dig it. Men love it. Confidence adds hair, drops ten pounds, and takes off ten years.” If that doesn't motivate you, I don't know what will!

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Are you ready to learn 3 ways to develop quiet confidence? CLICK HERE to read the article that I wrote on Medium!

THIS is how to attract high level, successful people in your life! Your environment and the people that you surround yourself with has a huge impact on the person that you become.

Step back and take a look at your circle of friends. Do these people inspire you to achieve greatness, or does their negative energy leave you feeling unmotivated and stagnant?

If it’s the latter, it’s time to find new friends.

Is this a heartless way of thinking? Not at all. As Jim Rohn once said, “You are the average of the five people that you spend the most time with.”

The Law of Attraction is based on the principle that ‘like attracts like.’ Who you spend time with is who you become. If you want to achieve great things in life, you need surround yourself with great people. It’s that simple.

Are you ready to finally start attracting the right people in your life?

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THIS is how you attract the right people in your life! I recommend that you take out a pen and piece of paper and write down these four steps:

1. Define who you want to attract

Who are the kinds of people that you want to attract in your life? What kind of qualities do they possess? If you aren’t clear on who you want to attract, then you won’t attract them.

I recommend that you make a list. The first time that I engaged in this exercise I wrote down names like Tony Robbins and Dwayne Johnson. These were examples of people whose qualities and ways of life I looked up to.

Oftentimes, this list is be based on the visions and goals that you have for your life. Find people who have already mastered the path that you desire to be on.

An example of someone that I had aspirations of attracting into my life, and who now is a good friend of mine, is a man by the name of Wade Lightheart. In my early 20’s when I was training for fitness competitions, I was exploring the idea of becoming a vegetarian. I came across Wade’s story, and he really inspired me.

He was a vegan bodybuilder, who had won national titles on a purely plant-based diet. I wanted to learn from him, so I put on a seminar and invited him to speak. He ended up speaking at my event, and later I received coaching from him and went on to develop a friendship with him that is still going strong to this day.

2. Define who you need to become in order to attract them

Once you have your list of people, define who you need to become in order to attract them into your life. Rather, who do you need to become in order for THEM to seek YOU out?

You attract who you are, and the reality is that people like people that are like them. It’s not until you elevate your status and become someone of value that others seek you out.

Who do you need to become in order to be seen by others as someone of value?

3. Become more valuable

You have to be constantly working on growing and improving yourself if you want to attract high-quality people into your life. If you are a negative person who is always complaining, then those are the types of people that you are going to attract into your life.

Read books, travel, attend seminars, improve your finances, get in better shape. Do whatever it takes in order to attract the very people that ascribe to the same way of life that you aspire to.

THIS is how you attract high level, successful people into your life. Whatever you want to attract, become that so people see the value of your presence in their lives.

4. Put yourself in environments to attract the people you want into your life

Once you get clear on the people that you want to attract into your life, ask yourself, “What kinds of environments do these people hang out in?”

For example, I want to meet people who are passionate about self-development, like I am, so I attend seminars and events where I know I will meet like-minded people and people who are already where I want to be in my own life. 

This is one of the reasons why I travel all the time, because it is a great way to network and create relationships with like-minded, high-vibe people. In the words of Tim Sanders, the former Yahoo director, “Your network is your net worth.”

THIS is how you attract the right people into your life! I hope this four-step process inspires you to take action and find the people who inspire you to raise your game and become the person that you desire to be.

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I had the pleasure of interviewing Zan Perrion on men, women, seduction and relationships.  Zan Perrion is a writer, motivational speaker, life coach, and author of a book called, The Alabaster Girl.

Zan’s mission is to teach men the secrets of real attraction – exactly how to meet, attract, and create loving relationships with beautiful women.  He has a very unique philosophy that advocates a more enlightened form of interaction between men and women, based on honesty and authenticity.

Zan has been involved in the seduction community for many years now. I remember attending one of his first seminars when I was 18 years old.

Watch the video below:

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Zan is a good friend, and someone that has been a mentor of mine for almost 10 years.  I would like to share with you some of the dialogue from our interview together:

How do you get into this field of work?

I was raised in the north of B.C. until I was 18 years old. We had no electricity or running water. When I turned 18 I still hadn’t gone to school. I didn’t have the normal social education that so many teenagers have. I came out of that culture and into the cities of the world, wide-eyed, nervous, and embarrassed because I was a poor and uneducated kid. I felt that I had no value and I was massively insecure, but I knew that I loved girls. I’ve always been in love with feminine energy, and so I dedicated my whole life to trying to understand my relationship to women and why they were rejecting me. I spent my 20’s in confusion. During those times, there were no books or dating sites. I went to the bar by myself, trying to be cool and interesting. In my 30’s, I started to figure out that interacting with women was simpler than I had made it out to be. I found a better way to connect with women. I wanted to understand what it was about the spirit of a man that attracts beautiful women. I set out to capture the difference between that man and 90% of them out there. In my 40’s, the seduction community came along. I took what I had learned over the years, and captured it in my book.

What have you found to be the common traits of the men who are successful at relating to women?

They aren’t the normal traits that we would think. We see rich guys that have a yacht and woman surrounding them, dressed in bikinis, but that’s not real. There’s a type of spiritual energy in women that is drawn to artists and men that have a compelling vision. They want something different. I studied men like Casanova from history that just got it. Women thought that he was a scoundrel, but they couldn’t stop thinking about him. I was so curious what makes up that spirit of mischief and masculine danger that is covered with a beautiful energy of respect. One of the greatest qualities that these men have is generosity. When they talk to you, you are the only one in the world. These men are present, have a massive curiosity, and an inviting spirit, as opposed to a ‘checking out’ spirit. They say to women, “Come into my energy.”

What do you see as the biggest obstacle that holds men back from attracting women into their lives?

It is a lot about mindset, but guys usually wait until they have things in place before they show up in the world so that they can come away from it and say, “Now I can pick-up girls”, but that day never arrives. You don’t have to get everything in place before you show up in the world. Like Woody Allen said, “80% of success in life is showing up”. If guys would go out and talk to 25 different girls, they would be shocked at what would come back their way. Some may turn their backs, but if they just put out those positive vibes, they would be surprised. Men think that they have to have a joke or a story in place in order to approach women. It’s simpler than we think. People have a fear of failure because they’ve been rejected. For this generation of men, it’s the fear of success. What if they do get their energy up, and a woman ends up liking them? Now, they have to be dynamic, interesting and they can’t bum around all weekend. Many men want a great woman, but they don’t really because then they will have to shift their comfort zone and step into their masculine power. They want to keep the comfort of “I’m miserable, I watch a lot of porn, and my life sucks.”

Many relationships fail. Why do a lot of relationships fail in today’s society?

It’s a secular age when it comes to relationships, as opposed to spiritual, which is a man and a woman with a polarity thereof, saying, “I adore you and there’s something in you that inspires me to conquer the world.” Relationships have become tentative. People have a cautious suspicion of one another. I believe that we are missing beauty in our masculine energy, in our relationships, and in our sexual desire as men.  Instead, it’s antagonistic. Everything is a shock. We are missing compassion for one another. I think men need to go on their vision quest and our generation doesn’t have enough of those men. In my work, if guys say to me, “If I’m authentic and I compliment a girl, then I will come across as needy.” This is true. A man’s confidence comes from a place of, “If I say something nice to this girl, she will give me favors.” Compliments have nothing to do about women at all; it’s all about them and what they can get. A true lover of women, a man that stands on this earth, will compliment a woman because that’s who he is. He’s not looking for the response. It’s not his job. He will say, “I didn’t mean to interrupt you, but you look beautiful because I’m a man and I like beautiful things.” He showed up and did his job as a man. There is no neediness in that. A woman can feel the difference in the energy because it comes form a vibrational place. There is a great difference between neediness and desire. Desire is beautiful. If a guy is lonely and horny and doesn’t want to be alone, it’s a disservice to say to him, “Be unattached to the outcome.” It’s not a bad thing to have an agenda; it’s a bad thing to have a hidden agenda.

What is your philosophy on living?

Ease into light. I want to have good experiences and share good experiences with people who are on the same wavelength and path as I am. I don’t work too hard.  I was so lost and poor when I came out of the north of B.C. I’ve been doing what I do for so many years, and still to this day, whenever I’m in a new country, I look out to the sea and all I can think is, “How is it possible that this poor kid with no education or possibilities is sitting in Saint Kitts?” Those moments give me a life philosophy of deep gratitude. Having this conversation over the skyline of Vancouver is the greatest thing I can do right now. I don’t do things that I have to do. I don’t waste my time. I have gratitude around the journey of life. I focus on going to the wind – to bind myself to the mast and go into the storm.

What is your message for men and women in today’s world?

In this day and age of uncertainty and brokenness with regards to relationships, I have an optimistic feeling towards men and women. I think there is going to be a renaissance. I can feel something. I travel all over the world and I think there is a large majority of people who are tired of antagonistic energy. The dating world is information-driven. Everyone has taken a program, done a dating course, tried online dating, etc. Almost every man and woman has been sold dating coaching and programs. They know the answers. The information age is ending when it comes to relationships and I believe we are entering into an embodiment age, which is where men and women will take all that knowledge they have collated and embody it from an energetic and vibrational perspective. I've worked with men who have been following my work for years. Intellectually, they can finish my sentences, but they’ve never been able to feel the vibration. There is a rhythm to how women respond to you. These men are authentic in their desires, but it doesn’t land. Men don’t know how to take information and apply it. They live in their heads. They need to get into their bodies and start feeling the vibrational field. My message to men is “take heart”. We are going deeper. I want to be in the company of men who are inspired to do that.

What would be your advice for women?

Women need to “take heart” as well. I've dedicated my life to women. I’m on their side, but they have their own work to do. There will not be a men’s movement that has any kind of beauty or value in it, if it isn’t inspired by a women’s parallel movement. We need to reclaim the beauty and strength of the feminine spirit. I am encouraged and excited for women and men.

What else is on the agenda for Zan?

I live with my beautiful fiancée in Romania. I have a lot of travel plans in terms of speaking. The burning desire in my heart is to write my second book, but Im afraid to start it. Ive got 50,000 words of notes. I keep procrastinating, but I want to discover it for myself and then capture it in words.

Do you have a closing message that you would like to share?

Trust the process and don’t ever get discouraged. Instead of looking in the mirror and saying, “I suck”, replace that with, “I'm a student of life.” No matter what you do, you are on a journey of discovery, forever. Don’t blame yourself. Make friends with who you are. If your intentions are sincere and you showed up as best as you could, that’s great.

I’m so grateful that I was able to interview Zen Perrion on men, women, seduction and relationships.

Zan’s work has changed my life for the better. I highly recommend that you read his book and follow his teachings.

Do you want to learn more about Zan Perrion's insights on men, women, seduction and relationships? CLICK HERE to receive a free copy of his book!

My girlfriend Tatiana and I would like to share with you how to create attraction and ignite passion in a relationship.

Passion is what initially creates attraction in a relationship.

People often tend to think of passion in terms of a healthy sex life, but it is so much more than that.

Passion is foundational to a satisfying and healthy long-term relationship.

Although it may fade at different times in a relationship, there are things that you can do in order to reignite the spark.

You need to understand that there are two different energies at play between a man and a woman – the masculine and the feminine.

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Every man and woman has different levels of both masculine and feminine energies, but there is always one that is a more dominant force.

In the words of Tony Robbins, “In any relationship where there is sexual attraction and deep intimate connection — you’ll find the power of opposite energies at play.”

The masculine side is direct, driven, protective, competitive, and solution-focused, whereas the feminine side is more spontaneous, flowing, expressive, intuitive, and collaborative.

The concept of “opposites attract” states that the more different someone is from you, the more attractive they are to you sexually.

This sexual polarity is what creates attraction and passion between two people.

In his book, The Way of the Superior Man, David Deida describes that there lies a deep, magnetic attraction between masculine and feminine energy (no matter who those energies live inside of).

In other words, when a woman is being extra feminine, it attracts a man sexually, and when a man is being extra masculine, it attracts a woman sexually.

It is important to realize that a man may have a feminine side and a woman may have a masculine side.

As long as one partner is willing to embody the masculine, while the other embodies the feminine, a healthy and balanced relationship will exist.

If two people are both in their masculine or both in their feminine, conflict will ensue, which is why it is important to communicate with your partner what mode you are in.

Below are three stages of development that men can pull upon in order to reclaim their masculine energy:

Presence

When you give your undivided attention to your beloved, she feels safe, supported, and loved. The two of you become connected, in your mind, body, and soul.

Claim

This involves letting your beloved know that you are dedicated and devoted to her and your relationship.

Tell her that you are with her fully, and that she is yours, 100%.

Penetration

This involves feeling what your beloved feels.  It is as if you are inside of her, and you are fully connected, as one.

Below are three stages of development that women can pull upon in order to reclaim their feminine energy:

Invitation

When a man shows a woman presence and a woman is gifted with undivided attention, she is encouraged to open herself to her partner. She invites him into her heart.

Surrender

When a man claims his love for a woman, it inspires her to trust the direction of their relationship, and she responds by surrendering to him.

She removes the barriers that hold her back from fully inviting his claim.

Expression

When a man freely demonstrates his love for his partner, it allows a woman to feel comfortable to express her emotions.

She is able to tell her partner what it is that she wants and needs in the relationship.

When a woman is in her full feminine expression, a man is able to fully embody his masculine.

If you want to have a healthy, long-term relationship, it is important that you learn how to create attraction and ignite passion in a relationship.

In the words of Dr. Steve Maraboli, “In my relationship, she is my woman and I am her man.  This designation is not one of ownership, but of passion. It is a loving and passionate expression that reflects the truth that out of over seven billion people in the world, she is my ONE.”

Tatiana and I make it a priority in our relationship to master the art of passion.

Because of our commitment to one another, we have learned how to create an amazing relationship.

It is a dance that is different in every relationship, but it is essential if you want to have a passionate and loving connection with someone.

How can you ignite more passion in your relationship?

Commit yourself to living a life of passion with your partner and you will ignite your relationship and the world around you.

Do you want to learn how to take your life to the next level and achieve mastery? CLICK HERE to learn more! Also, don't forget to check out Tatiana's website and YouTube channel!