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21 Crazy, Extreme Actions I Took To Become Successful

Stefan James — Thu, 18 Jun 2020 15:00:18 +0000

I've taken some crazy and extreme actions in my life to become successful.

I didn't achieve the success that I have today by sitting on the sidelines and playing it safe. I got into the game of life and played, full out.

Some of the things that I'm going to share with you may shock you. Some things I'm embarrassed about, while others I'm proud of.

Ultimately, everything I've gone through has helped me create the life that I have now. Ready to discover the crazy things I've done to become successful?

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Have you ever done something crazy to achieve a goal?

Success, by its very nature, is extreme. After all, “crazy” is the ultimate breeding ground for creativity, and creativity is the driving force behind fresh and exciting ideas. Only one percent of people become financially successful. It makes sense why ninety-nine percent of people would think that they are crazy.

The reality is that success is a dedicated and obsessive focus on something. That is what separates a mediocre life from an extraordinary one. Success isn't easy. If it was, everyone would be successful. We all know that successful people work harder than the average person.

Not only that, but they don't allow their failures (which is inevitable in life) to stop them. They just keep going. Successful people also make huge sacrifices and embrace a lot of challenges along the way.

In no way, shape, or form are the actions that I took a prescription for what you should do in your life to be successful. My extreme actions may not resonate with you and that's okay. I merely want to show you what successful people are willing to do to achieve their goals and dreams.

The decisions I've made in my life have been based on different stages of my consciousness and development as a human being. There were times when I was operating at a very low level of consciousness.

There was a time in my life when I was depressed and suicidal.

Early on in my entrepreneurial journey, I experienced a lot of frustrating moments. I was extracting knowledge from the people I was learning from, but I kept coming up short. Instead of giving up, I used my pain as motivation to propel me forward.

I took more action and made more drastic sacrifices until I eventually achieved success. If you are not willing to sacrifice your pride, comforts, or security, you will never achieve your highest level of success. In sharing my crazy journey with you, I hope that you will learn from my mistakes so that you don't have to struggle as much as I did.

The knowledge I share with you may make you decide that you aren't willing to do the crazy things that are necessary to achieve success. Or maybe it gives you a massive wake-up call, making you realize that you aren't going for it enough. The truth will always set you free. Whatever the outcome is, what I'm going to tell you will be useful and somewhat entertaining!

Here are 21 crazy, extreme actions I took to become successful.

1. I listened to self-hypnosis audio programs.

At one point in time, I was very inspired by Paul McKenna who is a well-known British hypnotist. I used to listen to his guided self-hypnosis audio programs. I would go into hypnotic trances. When I was younger, I was very shy and insecure.

From Paul's teachings, I learned that right before bedtime, your brain is more suggestible to subliminal programming. This means that certain messages will more easily penetrate your subconscious.

2. I formed a self-development house with my friends called Project Vancouver.

When I was 17 years old I read a book called, The Game by Neil Strauss. This is about a pickup artist community of men who would pick up women. I was interested in learning how to attract women because it was an aspect of my life that I wanted to work on.

Inside his book, Neil lived in a house in Hollywood, CA called Project Hollywood. When I was 21 years old I moved out of my mom's house. My friends and I decided to form a self-development house called Project Vancouver. Every Sunday we had house meetings. Each of us had to share our top five actions that we were committed to achieving each week.

If we didn't achieve a goal that we set for ourselves, we would have to put $20 towards the house. We would use that money to invest it in some form of self-development that we could all benefit from. Eventually, we moved into a bigger place. At one point, there were nine of us living under one roof. I believe that proximity is power. Living with like-minded people has so many payoffs for your future.

3. I signed a 12-month lease on an apartment that I couldn't afford.

When I was 23 years old I struggled with procrastination a lot. Nothing was a “must” for me. I realized that I needed to put more pressure on myself if I wanted to become successful. My back needed to be up against the wall. I had the desire to move into an apartment in downtown Vancouver, which is one of the most expensive cities in the world.

At the time, I was only making $1,500 per month. The apartment was renting for $1,100 per month. Even though I couldn't afford the apartment, I went for it anyway and signed a 12-month lease. There was no Plan B. I became resourceful and tapped into my creativity. If it meant staying up all night to work and make money, I was willing to do that. I wouldn't recommend doing something like this, but I grew massively as a result.

4. I hired Tony Robbins' son, Jairek, to coach me.

When I was in my 20's, the vision that I had for my life was to one day live in San Diego, CA. I wanted to experience living there so I moved to San Diego for 3 months and stayed in hostels. While I was there, I met Jairek Robbins, Tony Robbins' son. We were both at an event called, Three Feet From Gold.

He invited me to go to an Internet marketing seminar as his guest. I befriended him and hired him to be my coach. I couldn't afford it but I wanted to take advantage of the opportunity. As a result of my decision, I had to move out of my apartment because I got into a lot of debt.

5. I lived on my friend's couch for 6-12 months.

This was am embarrassing time in my life, but I humbled myself the best I could. I was in a lot of credit card debt and living from a place of lack. My goal was to get out of debt and that's what I ended up doing. I was willing to make huge sacrifices to get ahead in life, long-term.

Living on my friend's couch meant that I had zero privacy and it didn't feel good. However, I'm so grateful for this time of my life because rock bottom became the foundation upon which I rebuilt my life. I did the work to change my money habits, paid off $15,000 in credit card, and went on to become a millionaire.

6. I hosted a carwash fundraiser to pay for a seminar I couldn't afford.

There was a seminar in New York City that I wanted to attend but I couldn't afford the flight. So I found a way to make the money. I ended up hosting a by-donation carwash fundraiser in Vancouver. My friends and I made some signs and I got an autobody shop to host the carwash.

People would drive by and I would tell them why I was doing the fundraiser. They gave me $20, $50, even $100. In one day I made $800! Simply by being resourceful and asking for help. I was so committed to doing anything to get to that seminar. There were no limits.

7. I worked 48 hours straight, without sleep.

When I was 25 years old, I was traveling throughout Columbia. During this time, my Internet marketing business crashed. I was desperate to make money and I promised myself that I would return to Vancouver better than I was when I left.

I stayed in my room and worked non-stop for one week straight. One night I worked 28 hours straight. I got so immersed in what I was working on to the point that time stopped. This isn't healthy or necessary but I don't regret it. I built so much willpower and strength from this experience.

8. I worked several months straight without a day off.

Last year was the longest stretch I've ever worked without a day off. I was invited by Tony Robbins and Dean Graziosi to support them in the launch of a new product. I was one of the top people who promoted the product and, as a result, I went to Fiji and got to spend quality time with Tony.

I worked relentlessly for three months because I wanted the opportunity so badly. In effect, I was willing to do anything to make it happen. My drive wasn't for money or success. I had already achieved both of those things in my online business.

Rather, it was the passion that I had for the project. Tony Robbins has been my mentor since I was 17 years old and now I can say I've worked with him. I still pinch myself. I ended up getting massively burnt out and took a long vacation to get my health back. It was all worth it in the end.

9. I've invested hundreds of thousands of dollars into my self-development.

Books, seminars, courses, coaches, mentors, consultants, naturopaths, supplements, technology, and body healers. You name it, I've invested in it! I will invest in anything if I will believe that it will make my life better. The reason why I do this is that I want to live an extraordinary life.

If that means taking advantage of every opportunity I can, I'm on board. Through self-development, I've discovered so much about myself, others, and the world. I've gone so far as to spend $10,000 to attend a Tony Robbins seminar. I've been to his Unleash The Power Within event 7 times, Business Mastery twice, and Date with Destiny twice.

I even hired one coach for $15,000 just to help me with one block that I had that was preventing me from growing my business. I'm not going to lie… I had a lot of fear about hiring a Project Manager and giving up control. This is why I needed someone to coach me through the process.

This is why I share the value of information and taking action on what you learn. I approach every experience with newness, excitement, optimism, and belief. More importantly. I take massive action, even when I don't have all of the answers. That is the secret to my success.

10. I studied great speakers and transcribed their speeches, word for word.

I would write down speeches, word for word, of great speakers whom I admired. Once I had the speeches transcribed I would recite them out loud and try to emulate their body language, vocal tone, and their gestures. The goal was to become a better speaker.

By modeling greatness, I strengthened my own voice. Before I had a YouTube channel, I also filmed myself speaking so that I could study my words and become more conscious of my communication style. It all paid off. I now have over 1 million subscribers on my YouTube channel!

11. I went to nightclubs alone and sober to meet women, despite being anxious.

When I was 18 years old I met a group of guys on the Internet as part of a message board. They were going out and meeting women together. I was terrified to be a part of this group but I forced myself to overcome my anxiety. Over time, I became very confident.

My personality totally shifted. However, I always needed to have a friend or a wingman with me to approach a woman. I decided to handicap myself so I would go to the hardest environment that I could possibly find to meet women. For me, this was a nightclub.

I would go by myself, with no alcohol, and approach random women to spark conversations. Oftentimes, I was so in my head that I couldn't approach anyone. I was very self-conscious. However, I didn't give up. Eventually, I started attracting women into my life.

12. I took action on everything I learned.

In many ways, I was a very coachable person. I fully trusted every coach or mentor that I had. Whatever they told me to do, I did it. As an example, one of my mentors suggested that I read the book, The Richest Man in Babylon by George Clason. In his book, he talks about the importance of taking a percentage of your income and giving it to a charity.

An action like this teaches you that there is more than enough for everyone. You end up living from a place of abundance rather than a place of scarcity. There was a time when I didn't have extra money to donate, but I still did it and took action. Some things worked and others didn't. That being said, the things that worked always outweighed the things that didn't.

13. I met my mentor, Zan Perrion, at his seminar 10 years ago and we are good friends to this day.

When I was 18 years old, I went to Zan Perrion's first-ever seminar in Vancouver. It cost me $500. I brought my laptop, sat in the front row, and wrote out everything that he said as if it was gospel. For two days straight I studied my notes. I shared my notes with Zan and he was blown away.

Surprisingly, I ended up becoming friends with him and interviewed him on my YouTube channel two years ago.

14. I would stay out until 3 am at nightclubs to practice building my confidence with women.

When I was 21 I started my first business, which was called Lifestyle Transformations. It was a dating coaching business for men. I used to do free events in Vancouver called Dating Mastery Seminars every two weeks. Once people came to the seminars, I would sell them on a 3-day boot camp where I would take men in public and help them approach women.

I did that for many years. Our boot camps would end at 2 am. Because I wanted to push myself, I would stay out one hour later. I knew that if I kept practicing my confidence with women, I would grow and become more. In turn, I would be better able to support the men I was coaching.

15. Over a one-year period, I approached 2,000 random women in public and sparked conversations with them.

When I was 18 years old, I was terrified of approaching women. I didn't really care about meeting a woman or going on dates. If I approached enough women, I knew that I would be able to overcome my anxiety interacting with them. Going back to that group of men I met online, I would go out with them 4 days a week.

At this point in my life, I wasn't old enough to go to nightclubs, so I would stand outside the nightclubs and randomly approach women. My only focus was to add value and give them compliments and then walk away. I wasn't trying to get anything.

Every time I went out, I would approach 10-15 women. When I got home, I would journal about my experiences. I would analyze my body language, eye contact, and vocal tone. Every time a woman would react in a certain way, I took responsibility for it. That self-awareness allowed me to improve my communication skills.

16. I faced my fear of talking to strangers by forcing myself to say “Hi” to 3 people in public places.

When I was 18 years old, I worked for my dad in his construction manufacturing business. We made limestone fireplaces for houses. Part of my job was to go to Home Depot to pick up supplies. At the time, I was reading the book, How To Talk To Anyone by Leil Lowndes which gave me the motivation to stretch myself.

When I would go to the store, I would challenge myself to say “Hi” to 3 people before I left. Sometimes it would take me a while because of my anxiety but eventually, I would achieve my goal.

17. I would recite affirmations at the top of my lungs in my car while commuting to work.

Thirty minutes every day I would drive to and from work. I turned my car into a university on wheels, meaning I would listen to audio programs while driving. During this time, I would recite affirmations at the top of my lungs. I would also listen to Roger Love's, Set Your Voice Free audio programs in the car, and do vocal exercises. Roger is the biggest vocal coach in the world.

Today, he is my vocal coach. I've interviewed him twice on my YouTube channel about how to master the perfect voice and how to master public speaking.

18. I took speech pathology classes to improve my ability to project my voice.

When I was young, I was a really bad speaker. I had a lisp and I used to mumble. Thus, when I would go to nightclubs and try talking to women, I struggled to project my voice. Since the music was very loud, it was a very challenging environment for me to adapt to.

I used to hate that I had to lean in for a woman to hear me. As a man, when this happens, you end up communicating at a lower level. I wanted women to lean into me. Thus, I had to work on my voice. At the time, one of my best friends found a vocal coach. We took speech pathology classes to improve our ability to project our voices without straining them. As a result, I was able to command attention at a higher level and speak louder.

19. I trained and competed in two fitness model competitions.

In 2011-2012, I wanted to change my body. At the time, my life coach inspired me to train for a fitness competition. He told me to forget about the result. Instead, just do it for the process and for the person who I would end up becoming. I committed to training for the WBFF Fitness Model Competition.

I hired a nutritional coach and created a serious workout program. I've never been so motivated. I worked out twice per day and tracked every calorie in a spreadsheet. I transformed my body. However, I went too extreme and overtrained. That being said, it was still a powerful journey towards mastering my mind and body.

I committed to something I was afraid to do and I took on the mentality, “If I can't, I must.” Two years later, I did a second competition and trained in a healthier way. It was a great accomplishment in my life.

20. My friend and I each put $500 on the line as a way of holding each other accountable for achieving our goals.

I would have nights where, before we went out, my friend and I would write down the goals that we wanted to achieve when it came to interacting with women. We agreed to approach two mixed groups comprised of men and women. To put pressure on each other, we would go to an ATM and withdraw $500 each as a way of holding each other accountable. If one or both of us didn't follow through, we lost our money.

21. I would study and memorize one-liners to spark conversations with women.

When I was reading the book, The Game, I was learning routines of how to start a conversation with women. In the book, it was suggested that one way of doing this was to ask a woman her opinion on a topic. I would memorize this one-liner when I was communicating with a woman –“Let me get your opinion. Who lies more? Men or women?” It was a great conversation starter. Over time, I learned that it's not what you say, but how you say it that matters.

These are the 21 crazy, extreme actions I took to become successful.

I am proud to say that I have committed my entire life to self-development. If something was ever difficult or challenging, I was willing to do it, if it meant that I would become a better person. Who I am today is because of these 21 actions that I took.

I have grown tremendously over the years, but I still consider myself to be a learner. Don't stop learning. Don't stop growing, and never forget that everything happens for a reason. Be grateful for your life experiences, as crazy and extreme as they may be.

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It’s Time To Do The Things You Keep Putting Off. Here’s How…

Stefan James — Wed, 22 Apr 2020 18:30:16 +0000

It's time to do things you keep putting off.

Do you have a goal that you want to pursue, but have been unable to take necessary action on it?

Procrastination is the enemy of success. It keeps you stuck and incapable of reaching your true potential in life.

Success doesn't come to those who wait on the sidelines. Nothing in your life will work unless you take action.

There will never be a perfect time to start anything. If you're ready to discover how to stop putting off things once and for all, keep reading.

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The longer that you procrastinate on something, the more stuck you will feel, and the less likely that you will take action. We've all procrastinated at some point in our lives. Sometimes you just want to be lazy and do nothing. That is OK. Relaxation is a great reward for hard work.

However, when procrastination becomes a bad habit it can negatively affect every area of your life. Research shows that one in five people are chronic procrastinators. Not surprisingly, these types of people dabble and aren't able to finish anything. As a result, they end up struggling in life.

If you feel like you're falling into a procrastination trap where you're continuously putting things off, now is the time to make a change. I'm going to help you break free from the never-ending cycle of delay, which only causes unnecessary stress and pain. However, before I do it's important that you understand something.

If you want to create change in your life, you have to be willing to change.

Nothing in your life will change unless you change. Let me use the example of starting an online business to prove my point. Right now there are a lot of opportunities to work from home, whether you want to start a side hustle or create financial freedom. A lot of people have the desire to start an online business but they never take action on it. Why? The answer lies in what drives human behavior.

Human beings are driven by the need to avoid pain and the desire to gain pleasure. This is otherwise referred to as procrastination. The decisions you make, the actions you take, and the habits you indulge in, are all based on this pain-pleasure principle.

Going back to my example… an online business can give you a lot of pleasure down the road, in the form of working from home, being your own boss and living the laptop lifestyle. However, you may be held back from building an online business because you associate more pain than pleasure to it.

The pain that a lot of people associate with starting an online business is that the process is hard, timely, and risky. I'm not going to sugarcoat it…. success isn't a walk in the park. There is no short-term benefit of working hard. Building a business is a long-term game. If you're not willing to do whatever it takes to achieve success, you won't get far. Yes, it's a lot more comfortable to watch Netflix versus working on building your business.

It comes down to you deciding how bad you want something.

However, it's also very important that you reinforce the pleasure principle. When you think about starting an online business or whatever it is that you've been putting off, ask yourself, “What is the benefit that it will give me if I decide to pursue it?” Write these benefits down on a piece of paper. Maybe it's your desire to travel the world, spend more time with your family, create financial freedom, or become a philanthropist.

When you feel pleasure towards something, but you know that there will still be some level of pain that you have to endure, naturally you will experience an inner conflict. This is what causes people to get stuck in analysis paralysis, which is nothing short of a productivity killer.

The real question is, “How do you trick your brain into taking action, no matter how much pain you associate with doing so?” First, you need to use your pain as motivation, meaning that you have to start linking more pain to NOT taking action than to taking action.

Jim Rohn once said, “We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is that discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.” Yes, there is pain involved in being disciplined.

However, trust me when I say that having regrets is much more painful. Knowing that you settled for a life of mediocrity and didn't maximize your true potential will eat away at you. It is possible for short-term pain to result in long-term pleasure. However, you have to willing to embrace the pain.

What is the consequence of not doing the thing that you've been putting off?

Make a list and write those pain points down. Going back to my online business example, maybe it's having a 9 to 5 job that doesn't pay you a lot of money, working for someone else, or living in scarcity. This is why I chose to be an entrepreneur.

When I was younger my parents went through a really bad bankruptcy. As a result, I grew up with a scarcity mentality because we didn't have a lot of money. In my mind, I linked not having money with pain. The feeling of being broke terrifies me. This is why I made a commitment to myself from an early age that I was never going to bring a child into this world until I was financially free. I used my pain as motivation to become successful.

What are the benefits associated with taking action? How would your life transform if you chose courage over comfort? What amazing life experiences would you have? Imagine a version of you who is a strong and confident leader.

Be someone who has the resourcefulness and creativity to take massive action and turn a dream into a reality. I dare you to stop putting off the things that you want to do and start playing big. If you are someone who aspires to build an online business but doesn't know where to start, check out my FREE business course where I share the 7 business models that made me an Internet millionaire in less than 3 years.

It's time to do the things you keep putting off.

In closing, I encourage you to journal and write down all of the reasons why you aren't taking action. Reflect upon the pleasure you will get from taking action and the pain you will experience from not taking action.

There is no perfect time to do anything. Sometimes you've just got to dive in and try. In the words of my mentor, Tony Robbins, “The path to success is to take massive, determined action.” Be one of the few who take action versus the many who dabble. Trust me when I say that the payoff is worth it.

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TAKE MASSIVE ACTION NOW! | Stefan James Motivation

Stefan James — Fri, 22 Nov 2019 16:00:20 +0000

Are you ready to TAKE MASSIVE ACTION NOW?

If you want to get results in life, you must take action. There is no way around it.

Tony Robbins believes that 80% of success is due to your psychology and only 20% is due to strategy.

Your mindset, beliefs, and emotions are the things that will make you or break you.

If you're ready to discover how you can TAKE MASSIVE ACTION NOW towards the achievement of your goals, keep reading!

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Goals require actions.

The reason why so many people don't achieve their goals in life is that they don't take action. You can't dream your way towards success. Rather, you've got to create an action plan and work on it every single day. If you are the type of person who is willing to take massive action, you're ahead of the game.

This is the kind of action that a lot of people aren't willing to take. Why? Well, first and foremost, it's not easy. Taking massive action means making your goal or the act of accomplishing that goal your duty, obligation, and responsibility. Taking action is a challenging feat when you don't have a strong enough why. You need to know what your purpose is for taking action, and then want it bad enough. If you don't, you will be afraid to get started.

Oftentimes, people think that they need to know everything in order to start something. This is so far from true. Oftentimes, it's just an excuse to procrastinate.

When you think about it, procrastination is just the fear of taking action, which stems from fear of failing. Nobody wants to fail, but you will never know how successful you can be if you don't try.

The only failure in life is not trying.

You've got to be willing to take risks in life and just start because there is no reward without risk. In fact, there is way more risk in not taking action. Ask yourself, “What will my life be like if I stay in my comfort zone and play it safe?” Don't be surprised if your answer scares you, and it should. Don't ever settle for a mediocre life because you were meant for greatness.

There will always be an excuse for why you can't take action. Drop these excuses at all costs because, oftentimes, someday only leads to a town called, nowhere. Anybody that I've known who has ever achieved success in life says that they wish that they had started their journey earlier. The reality is that tomorrow is not a promise. Today is all that you have, so make it count.

This is how to TAKE MASSIVE ACTION NOW!

When you have a strong enough purpose for what you want and why you want it, you will find a way to make it happen. Never let the tyranny of the how stop you from getting in the game of life. A large part of figuring out how to get started comes from taking action. In the words of Tony Robbins, “The path to success is to take massive, determined action.”

The road to success begins with a single step. Are you ready to start walking?

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San Diego: Dream Building, Cryotherapy, Blood Tests, Cafe Gratitude & High Performance Academy | Stefan James Vlog

Stefan James — Mon, 27 Mar 2017 15:07:32 +0000

I would like to share with you some of the amazing experiences that my girlfriend Tatiana and I had while visiting beautiful San Diego. One of the highlights of my trip was something that I like to do called, “dream building.”

San Diego has a special place in my heart. I love the idea of buying a piece of property there one day. I am a big believer in the power of manifesting your dreams with the law of attraction. When you feel as if you already have what it is that you want, the world is your oyster. There is no better time than now to visualize it, act as if it is your current reality, and take massive action in order to make it happen.

I built my brand, Project Life Mastery around the concept of life mastery, which is dedicated to focusing on helping myself and others live a life of balance. My businesses keep me very busy, but I understand how important it is to balance my energy, which means spending time with my loved ones, taking trips, and engaging in activities that bring me joy and fulfillment. What experiences bring a sense of fulfillment, joy, and purpose to your life? Life is short. There is no better time than now to do them.

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I am passionate about learning and growing in all areas of my life, and inspiring others to do the same, which is why when I travel, not only do I enjoy down time, but I also make sure that I engage in experiences that expand my mind. The best investment that you can make is in yourself.

In life and in business you always have to be growing and evolving. If you don’t stay one step ahead of the game and continue on the path of mastery, you will be left behind. In the words of Bob Proctor, “Change is inevitable, but growth is a choice.”

Below are some of the experiences that my girlfriend and I shared while on our trip to San Diego:

Dream Building

One of our first experiences was taking a bike ride through a seaside community within the city of San Diego called, La Jolla, to look at some property. One of my favorite things to do when I travel is “dream building”, where I envision and experience something that I desire to have in my life. It has always been a dream of mine to live in a beautiful house on the beach in California.

I try to associate an emotion to my dream and imagine myself actually living in a home here, waking up and doing my morning ritual on the beach, going for a run, starting a family, etc., so that I can manifest it in the future. In order to relax and enjoy some down time after a long bike ride, Tatiana and I got massages at a place called, “Happy Head”. We also visited the local farmers market, which boasted a lot of fresh juices, veggies, tinctures, organic chocolate, and much more!

Cryotherapy

Tatiana and I enjoyed a cryotherapy session, which is a hyper-cooling process that uses liquid nitrogen to lower a person’s skin temperature to approximately 30 degrees fahrenheit, for a period of up to three minutes (Darlington, 2016). Cryotherapy has amazing health benefits, some of which include decreasing inflammation, increasing metabolism, reducing chronic pain, and boosting collagen.

Blood Testing

Taking care of my body is one of my top priorities in life. I believe that your health is your greatest wealth, which is why my girlfriend and I decided to get comprehensive blood work done through a company called Quest Laboratories. They test your entire body for hormone levels, vitamins, minerals, performance, thyroid, omegas, etc.

A test like this is a great way to receive a complete picture of your health, so that you can track its progress and prevent diseases. We don’t have anything like this in Canada yet. Tatiana and I decided to pay for the premium package, which costs $1000. I’m looking forward to sharing our results with you.

Café Gratitude

I discovered this café a number of years ago in L.A. It’s a healthy vegetarian restaurant. When my girlfriend and I travel, we always focus on nourishing ourselves with healthy food. You always need to put the best fuel into your body in order to ensure that you have optimal energy. When I travel I make it a priority to focus on my health.

While eating at Café Gratitude it seemed like the perfect opportunity for my girlfriend and I to share with one another what we are grateful for. Gratitude changes everything. I am grateful for the ability to travel and visit a beautiful city like San Diego, enjoy the sun, and share these experiences with the woman that I love.

High Performance Academy Seminar

Tatiana and I had the opportunity to attend a 4-day transformational event at the Hilton in San Diego, led by Brendon Burchard, who is the world’s leading high performance coach and one of the most watched, quoted, and followed personal development trainers in history. The seminar was designed in such a way to help participants’ learn how to master their psychology, physiology, productivity, and people skills.

Traffic and Conversion Summit Networking Event

Held at the Hyatt Hotel, this summit brought together forty of the smartest marketers to answer the burning question in the digital marketing world, “What is working right NOW?” Because this summit was being held at the same time as Brendon Burchard’s seminar, unfortunately we didn’t get to attend it, but we did have the opportunity to network and connect with a lot of successful, like-minded entrepreneurs at the summit party.

My girlfriend and I had an amazing time in San Diego. I am looking forward to spending more time in this beautiful city. Not only did I learn valuable information that will allow me to take my business to the next level, but I was also able to enjoy some R&R with Tatiana, and engage in activities that helped us to grow as a couple and as individuals.

In the words of Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr., “A mind stretched by new experiences can never go back to its old dimensions. Travel. Learn. Grow.”

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3 Things I’m Stopping In My Life

Stefan James — Wed, 22 Mar 2017 14:22:52 +0000

I would like to share with you 3 things I'm stopping in my life. I am committed to mastery in every area of my life. I know that if I remove these 3 success blockers, it will bring me closer to achieving my goals. When you take massive action, you step into your power.

If you want to achieve success in your life, you need to be aligned with your purpose. Be honest with yourself. Are you living a congruent life? If not, it's time to make a change. In order to become the best version of yourself, it requires that you remove all distractions and focus your attention on the path that will bring you closer to the life you have always dream of.

In the words of Dr. Wayne Dyer, “When you stay on purpose and refuse to be discouraged by fear, you align with the infinite self, in which all possibilities exist.”

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1. Aimless consumption

When you consume your time with technology, and watch other people live their lives, it holds you back from taking action to achieve the goals you aspire to. I have been guilty of spending hours aimlessly consuming other peoples’ feeds. This isn't enhancing my life in any way. At times, I come across something that is educational, but oftentimes it’s a distraction from doing the things that help me grow.

I am trying to spend more time away from technology. I want to be in the real world, where I am able to communicate and connect with people. That is what I want my life to be about. We get so caught up in the digital world. Technology is there to support my lifestyle, but I don’t want to be defined by it. It is important that you consume content with a purpose.

2. Saying yes too often

I have come to realize that I say yes too often. When you do so, you overcommit, and it can overwhelm you. I commit to too many things that aren’t aligned with my ultimate vision. As part of my morning ritual, every Monday I look at my calendar and I ask myself, “What do I need to cancel or reschedule?” Lately, I spend a lot of time cancelling things.

By saying no, you learn to focus on mastering one or two things, as opposed to over-stretching yourself, which can lead to dabbling. There may be great opportunities that present themselves, but I need to say no and put the blinders on. It may offend people, but that’s OK. I’m not here to please everybody.

Rather, I’m here to serve, share my passion with the world, and make a difference in peoples' lives. That is what fulfils me the most. I choose to reserve my valuable time for experiences and people that I love the most.

3. Anything that doesn’t align with my purpose

Anything that takes you away from your purpose is a waste of time. I refuse to give power to any person or thing that is not in alignment with what I want in my life. Every choice you make impacts your life in some way. I don’t want to have any regrets, which is why I am committed to only taking actions that serve my highest self.

These are 3 things I’m stopping in my life. I challenge you to let go of 3 things that no longer serve your life. Dr. Steve Maraboli said it best – “Pay attention: Are your daily choices in alignment with the life that they want for yourself? If not, nothing will change.”

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Video transcript

I'm going to share with you three things that I commit to stopping and no longer doing in my life. Number one is what I call aimless consumption. I know you probably know what I'm talking about. This is where you are consuming all the feeds that are out there online – Facebook, Instagram feeds, Twitter, Snapchat, and YouTube. There are a lot of feeds out there these days where you are watching other people live their lives, and it's holding you back from living your own and from taking action to pursue your goals and dreams.

I've been super guilty of this. In some cases, Ive spent hours just aimlessly consuming content from other people. I don't even know who they are. I'm just watching them live their lives, or I'm clicking on links that lead me down this path and that path. I'm thinking to myself, “How does this even benefit me in my life? How is this enhancing my life?” Yeah, maybe once in a while I come across something that's cool, interesting, or funny, or actually educational, but a lot of the times it's aimless and without a purpose.

It's a distraction that is holding me back from taking action in my life and doing the things that I really want to do that will actually progress me even further. I'm trying to spend more time away from the computer, away from technology, away from my phone and the Internet, and spend more of my life in the real world, offline. You are away from the screen and you are actually talking to people face–to–face, interacting with them, having a conversation, connecting, exploring the world, having adventures and real experiences in life.

That's what I want my life to be about. Oftentimes we get caught up in technology. We forget that the Internet is there to support a certain lifestyle that we might desire and just waste my time consuming, that's holding me back from creating. I'm not saying not to consume. I'm saying consuming with a purpose. If I'm going to consume something, I don't want to just aimlessly open up Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or Snapchat, but actually deciding, “Okay, I'm going to go on Facebook so I can see what this friend is doing in their life and I want to look at their photos. I want to follow them”, or if I'm on Snapchat, I'm going to unfollow all the people I don't care about that don't enhance my life in any way. I'm just going to follow that one person that I might look up to one person that actually has some benefit or actually care what's going on in their life.

Or, instead of just aimlessly clicking around on the Internet watching different videos out there, I'm going to be more selective about the information that I consume. I'm going to be more selective and decide that if I'm going to go on YouTube, I'm going to go on it with the purpose of searching for something or browse on Google that favorite person that I know has value and benefit. Then, I'm going to turn it technology and I'm going to live my life spending more time in the real world and being more strategic about what I consume. That's the number one thing I'm committing to. The second thing that I'll stop doing is saying yes too often. I'm going to commit to saying no a lot more than I say yes. I don't know about you, but a lot of times when you say yes to things, you overcommit and it stresses you out. It overwhelms you. I know, for me, there's certain things that I commit to that oftentimes that are not aligned with my purpose and my ultimate vision.

In fact, one ritual that I have every single week on Mondays is I look at my calendar throughout the week and I ask myself, “What is it on this calendar throughout this week that I need to cancel or reschedule?” I'm spending a lot of time now cancelling things. I may say, “Sorry, I can't make this appointment. I can't make this lunch.” It's not part of my vision and my purpose. It's not the most important thing for me to do. By saying no, you will learn to focus and immerse yourself in what is most important.

You will learn to commit to mastering one thing or a few things, as opposed to overreaching yourself and over-stretching your focus. This can lead to dabbling in distraction. It doesn't serve you, so I will be saying no a lot. There may be a great opportunity that comes along, but I don't care. I need to respond with, “I'm focused right now. I'm grinding. I'm hustling towards this one goal, and this one outcome that I have.” I'm saying no to everything else, I'm putting the blinders on, and narrowing my focus.

This might offend people. Some people that might contact me might not be a part of my plan or might not be able to get a response from me. But you know what? I'm not here to please everybody. I'm here to live my life and serve in the highest possible way that I know how and that I can. So, I'm going to be saying no a lot more in my life. I'm going to reserve that my valuable time for people that I love and care about the most – my family, my friends, my girlfriend. That, unfortunately, might mean that I'm going to have to say no to some people. Some people might not like it. That's okay. The third thing that I'm going to commit to stopping and no longer doing is anything that does not align with my purpose and my ultimate vision of what I want for my life. These might be certain habits, activities, and things that take away from the life that I want.

I'm not going to be giving any power whatsoever to any person or any thing that is not in alignment with the life that I want to live. I guess that kind of fits in with saying no a lot. Even just cutting out certain things so that I can really allow the time that I'm spending in this world to be the most efficient. I don't want to have any regrets. Those are the three things I'm committing to stopping in my life.

No more aimless consumption. No more saying yes too often. I'm going to say no a hell of a lot more, and I'm going to no longer do anything that's not aligned with my purpose. Those are my three things. If you've got three things you want to commit to no longer doing, leave a comment below. I would love to hear what they are. Hit the thumbs up button if you enjoyed this and subscribe for more videos. I'll talk to you guys soon. Take care.

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