Tatiana and I want to give you our BEST relationship advice.

A successful relationship doesn't happen overnight. It takes commitment, patience, and the willingness to grow, together and alone.

Recently Tatiana and I asked our YouTube subscribers and Instagram followers for their top relationship questions.

Inside this blog, we answer those questions, based on our experience of being together for 7+ years.

Keep reading to discover our best advice for building a healthy, happy, and long-lasting relationship!

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Great relationships take hard work.

My love for Tatiana continues to grow in the most beautiful of ways because we take the time to invest in our relationship. Below Tatiana and I share our answers to some of your questions about love and relationships.

We hope that these relationship tips help you to understand yourself and your partner on a deeper level. If you want to learn more about Tatiana and the work that she does, I highly recommend that you subscribe to her YouTube channel and follow her on Instagram.

On that note, let's dive into the questions!

How do you keep things exciting in a long-term relationship?

Just like any other aspect of your life, you have to constantly focus on your relationship. One thing that has helped Tatiana and me is the 6 human needs framework that we learned from Tony Robbins.

Tony believes that the following 6 needs drive all human behavior – certainty, uncertainty/variety, significance, connection/love, growth, and contribution. If you're focused on fulfilling and meeting your partner's needs at a high level, you're going to have an incredible relationship.

When a relationship is lacking passion and intimacy oftentimes it means that there are needs that aren't being fulfilled by one or both partners. What we love about Tony's framework is that it's an easy way to measure where you're at in your relationship.

In particular, which needs are being fulfilled and which ones aren't being fulfilled.

Tatiana and I engage in a weekly relationship ritual where we go through the 6 human needs and list on a scale of 1-10 where our needs are being met. If either of us scores below a 7 on any of the 6 human needs, we talk about how we can get that number to a level 10.

This ritual will do wonders for your relationship. It gives you an opportunity to connect with your partner on a deeper level and work ON your relationship, instead of IN it.

There are 3 levels to a relationship. The first level is all about you. This is a selfish way of relating.

The second level is when you're giving love to receive love. It's merely an exchange.

The third level is when you are striving to meet your partner's needs above your own. By contributing beyond yourself, your partner will reciprocate. As a result, both of you will get your needs met in the relationship.

A lot of couples fall into the trap of giving what they think their partner needs. Oftentimes, it's not what their partner is asking for. It's important to understand that your partner may feel and/or express each of the 6 human needs in a different way from you.

Each person feels love in a different way. This is why it's important to understand what your love language is, and what the love language of your partner is. If you have yet to read the book The 5 Love Languages, we highly recommend that you do.

The 5 love languages include acts of service, quality time, words of affirmation, physical touch, and receiving gifts.

As part of our relationship ritual, Tatiana and I also ask one another the following questions:

• How can I better meet your needs?
• What is great about our relationship?
• How can I better meet your love language?
• What do you appreciate about me? 
• How can we create more love and passion in our relationship? 

We also take some time to share the magic moments that we experienced throughout the week together. By reliving those memories, we are acknowledging what is working well in our relationship.

Make it your goal to figure out how you can meet and fulfill your partner's needs at the highest level. If you can do that, you'll have an amazing relationship filled with passion and excitement. Keep in mind this relationship ritual requires allocating time and attention to your relationship, in the same way that you do for your business, health, or hobbies.

In the beginning stages of dating someone, it's easy to put in the effort. Everything is new and exciting. However, in long-term relationships, people tend to get complacent. They stop making an effort to meet the needs of their partner because they feel ‘secure.'

Unfortunately, this way of thinking and behaving can lead to resentment.

From our experience, if you do what you did at the beginning of your relationship, there will never be an end.

Apart from meeting your partner's needs, it is imperative that you meet your own needs as well. Make it a priority to spend time alone. Nourish your mind, body, and spirit so that you can be at your best. This is what will allow you to be at your best in your relationship.

How can I find my soulmate?

In my early 20s, I was a dating coach. I helped men improve their confidence and social skills. The reason why I started this business is that I was extremely shy and had a hard time talking to women. That was a huge pain point in my life.

I took the time to learn about relationships and find ways to improve myself so that I could attract the woman that I desired. The first step to attracting your soulmate is getting clarity on what YOU want in a partner. If you don't know what you want, you won't know if it passes you by.

When I went through this self-reflection process, I was very specific about the type of partner I wanted to attract into my life.

I thought about what I wanted my ideal partner's physical appearance to look like, to her character traits and favorite hobbies. From the list that I created, I identified my non-negotiables.

Once you get clarity on the type of partner that you want, ask yourself the question, “Who do I need to become to attract this person into my life?” You attract what you are. Determine what the best possible version of yourself looks like and then do the inner work to become that person.

How do you deal with arguments?

Arguments ensue between couples when they are in their ego. At the end of the day, your ego is just fear. It's trying to preserve your identity and the beliefs that you have. Your ego says, “I'm right and you're wrong.”

To become a more conscious person, you have to be willing to let go of your attachment to being right. You have to be willing to look at your partner's perspective. As Stephen Covey said, “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.”

There are times when Tatiana and I disagree or get annoyed with one another. However, we never allow our standards to drop to the point where we disrespect each other. We both came from families where our parents fought with one another a lot. We made a pact that we never wanted to be in a relationship like that.

Respect is key in a relationship.

When you argue with your partner it is more of a reflection of what is going on inside of you. It's your responsibility to understand what the root of your emotional triggers are and do the work to heal them.

Whenever you're arguing with your partner ask yourself, “Do I want to be right, or do I want to be in love?” Ultimately, there's a lot of things that Tatiana and I let go of because our goal is to choose the higher path, which is love.

This is our BEST relationship advice.

Falling in love is easy, but staying in love takes commitment and work. If you put our advice into practice, your relationship has the power to grow in ways that you never thought were possible.

Choose one another. Choose love. Life is hard enough.

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Are you ready to find and attract your soulmate?

I believe that we all have a desire to experience love and connection.

My relationship with my fiancée, Tatiana is the most important thing in my life. No amount of money or success even comes close to the joy and happiness that she brings to my life.

In the words of Alexander Smith, “Love is but the discovery of ourselves in another, and the delight in the recognition.”

Your soulmate is looking for you. Are you open to finding and attracting him or her into your life? If so, I want to show you how.

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When you've found your soulmate, you know.

A soulmate is someone who is aligned with your soul and is sent to challenge, awaken and stir different parts of you in order for your soul to transcend to a higher level of consciousness. In my eyes, a soulmate is a symbol of ultimate spiritual growth. I beleive that we attract people into our lives for the purpose of our expansion.

When you're in a relationship, your deepest fears and insecurities show up. Unfortunately, when this happens, a lot of people build up emotional walls. They close off their hearts to love. In turn, these old wounds end up preventing them from finding their soulmate.

From an early age, I was looking for a special person to spend my life with. However, I wasn't always lucky in love. When I was 17 years old, I got into the self-development world because I was shy and insecure. At that stage of my life, my entire focus was on finding a girlfriend. I spent most of my early 20's single. When you have a deep desire for connection and love it can be frustrating when you keep coming up short. However, what's most important is that you don't give up.

I want to share with you the process that I went through for finding and attracting my soulmate. In doing so, I hope that it will inspire you, knowing that your person is out there, looking for you too.

1. Get clear on what you want

Start with getting clear on what your core values are in life. Make a list of the qualities that you want in a partner and determine which ones are non-negotiable. In a relationship, you don't need to agree on everything, but if there is a misalignment in values, conflict will ensue.

If you're single, use Valentine's Day as an opportunity to get clarity on the type of woman or man that you want to attract into your life. Creating a vision for who your ideal person is will make the process of finding him/her that much more exciting.

2. Determine who you need to become to attract your soulmate

Once you've determined the type of person you want to attract into your life, now you need to determine who you need to be in order to attract him/her. This is why it's so important to do the work to evolve and become the best version of yourself. You attract what you are.

We attract people at our common level of woundedness or our common level of health. Hence, if you keep bouncing from one failed relationship to another, you need to get real with yourself and determine the ways in which you aren't showing up. When you improve yourself and take responsibility for your life, you start attracting higher quality people into your world.

3. Understand your nature 

Before you can attract a soulmate into your life you need to understand what your true nature is. All of us have masculine and feminine energy. We embody these energies at different times, depending on what we are doing. However, we all feel more aligned to one type of energy over the other.

Your inner-masculine gets activated when you're taking charge and focused on your goals. Conversely, your inner-feminine is heightened when you're creating art, feeling emotions, and living in the flow of life. Whatever energy that you relate to the most is the one that you need to predominantly express when you are looking for a partner.

For years I struggled with being in my masculine because I was a very emotional and sensitive man. However, I soon realized that I wasn't able to attract a woman into my life because I wasn't embodying enough of my masculine energy. I forced myself to engage in activities that allowed me to tap into my masculine side.

When I did this, not surprisingly I became more attractive to women. Relationships thrive when there is a distinct polarity between the energies of two people. Hence, the more opposed two energies are, the higher the level of sexual attraction.

This is how to find and attract your soulmate.

Finding your soulmate is life is the ultimate reward. When you find the right person to spend your life with, nothing else will compare. Until then, I encourage you to focus on evolving and growing as a person. Think of how you can improve yourself and your life so that you are ready to invite a special someone into your life. You owe that to yourself and to your future soulmate.

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Are you ready to know how to stop being jealous in a relationship?

One of the members in my Life Mastery Accelerator program recently asked me for some advice on how he can curb his jealous ways.

First and foremost, it's important to realize that jealousy is a natural emotion. 

However, the problem with it is that it masks other feelings and attitudes that are even more hurtful to those closest to us.

Don't allow jealousy to destroy your relationship. Ready for my advice on how to stop being jealous in a relationship?

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Jealousy can be a relationship killer.

When we are jealous, essentially we are worried that our partner is attracted to someone else. That feeling evokes fear that we may be rejected or abandoned. Therefore, jealousy becomes a coping mechanism by which people protect themselves from being hurt.

Unfortunately, when these fears aren't grounded in truth, the result can be anger, hurt and/or confusion from one or both partners. Once it gets out of hand, jealousy has a way of destroying a perfectly healthy relationship. In this blog, I would like to personally address my response to the man who is struggling with jealousy.

The first question I would ask you is, “Do you trust your partner?” If the answer is yes, you have to have faith that she loves you enough to not betray your relationship. Not surprisingly, research shows that trusting your partner has their best interests at heart is one of the most important and highly valued qualities in romantic relationships.

You cannot demand trust in a relationship. Rather, trust is a choice that two people make. If you're jealous, perhaps a part of you is lacking trust in your partner. If this is the case, I encourage you to look within yourself and figure out why you feel this way.

Oftentimes, jealousy stems from feelings of insecurity.

If you are secure in yourself, you won't feel threatened by other men talking to your girlfriend. My fiancée has men approach and hit on her all of the time, both online and in-person.

However, I am not threatened in any way because I know who she is as a person and I'm secure in our relationship. More importantly, I'm confident and secure within myself. I'm a big fan of the Buddhist principle of non-attachment. If Tatiana would be happier with someone else, then who am I to stop her?

Yes, it would hurt me and I would be sad. However, I would never want to sacrifice her happiness if it meant that she would be settling with me. That is the true definition of higher consciousness love.

If you are jealous, I encourage you to go inward and ask yourself if you have yet to deal with emotional pain from your past relationships. Or maybe your partner broke your trust in some way. If this is the case, both of you have to decide if you are willing to do the work to rebuild that trust together. 

This is how to stop being jealous in a relationship.

It's okay to feel jealous, but don't allow it to sabotage the love that you share with your partner. If you are prone to experiencing intense jealousy, the best thing that you can do is openly communicate your insecurities to your partner in a calm and loving way.

More importantly, commit to getting to the core of where your jealousy comes from and do the work to eliminate destructive emotional reactions altogether. If you can do this, your relationship will flourish. Even better, you will feel more secure in yourself. There is no greater gift that you can give to yourself.

Are you ready to overcome jealousy once and for all?

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My wife cheated on me… should I stay or leave?

This is a question that one of the members in my Life Mastery Accelerator program recently asked me. First and foremost, my heart goes out to this person.

Nobody ever wants to be in a situation like this with their partner. Restoring relationship trust after you've been betrayed is a difficult process.

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Great relationships don't magically happen.

They take a lot of hard work on the part of both individuals. How do you know if you’re working too hard on a relationship? If you're spending more time tending to the relationship and keeping it afloat than enjoying it. That's when you know you've got a problem.

When it comes to marriage, it takes even more work because there is a bigger level of commitment. Some married couples appear to be super happy on the outside, but behind closed doors, there may be issues that aren't being addressed.

When people are unhappy, sometimes they do things out of desperation, infidelity being one of them. This is one of the many reasons why the divorce rate is so prevalent among couples. Unfortunately, infidelity and divorce go hand in hand.

While some statistics are conflicting when it comes to how many divorces occur because of cheating, some list the number as high as 50 percent.

Why do people feel the need to cheat in the first place? More importantly, how do married couples survive infidelity and become stronger as a result? I don't have the answers for everything, but I can shed light on why I believe partner's cheat.

In this blog post, I would like to personally address my response to this person.

You first need to identify how your relationship got to the point where your partner felt the need to cheat on you. This is an important process to go through if you want to get to the root of the problem. You need to ask yourself, “What is happening with my wife that would have caused her to react in this way in the first place?”

Secondly, you need to take a good look at yourself. At the end of the day, you are still responsible for everything that happens in your life. I'm not justifying that what your wife did was right. However, it's important that you reflect upon what you could have done differently. Could you have better served her needs and how?

This is why I think it's so important to create a relationship journal with your partner. Yes, it is possible for you and your partner to journal your way to a healthier and stronger relationship, one that is based on trust, unconditional love, and respect.

My fiancée, Tatiana and I have a relationship journal which we use on a bi-weekly basis. We check-in with each other and make sure that each of our needs is being met. If they aren't, we take action to change that. As a result, our relationship continues to grow and get stronger every day. In my opinion, if a relationship isn't growing, it's dying.

If you truly love this woman, I would first try to focus on rebuilding your relationship with her. Ask her if she is committed to being in the marriage moving forward. You need to ask yourself the same thing. Do you want to make this marriage work?

More importantly, you need to ask her if she is open to making some changes in her own life. The reality is that she broke trust. She has to acknowledge that and take responsibility for it. I encourage you to get some relationship counseling, learn how you can better meet each other's needs, and commit to starting over.

This will require that you forgive her and love her unconditionally.

Will this be easy? No, but if you love her it will be worth it. Punishing her for what happened will only make everything worse.

In terms of your children, it's important to understand that you and your wife are the foundation of your family unit. If it is weak, your children will suffer as well. While your children may not listen to what you say, they will definitely model what you do.

If you are sacrificing your happiness for the sake of your children, you're doing everyone in the family a disservice. My Mom stayed in an unhappy marriage with my Dad for years.

Guess what? She was depressed for years and my siblings and I felt the brunt of it. She gave up her happiness and essentially, her life, for us. I never wanted that for her. I would have rather my parents split up instead of being miserable together.

My wife cheated on me… should I stay or leave?

Only the person who asked me this question knows what the best decision is. However, I hope I have offered some helpful insights on how best to move forward. I believe that love is worth fighting for, but not if you're the only one fighting.

At the end of the day, true love is a choice. Healthy relationships that stand the test of time take effort and commitment on the part of both individuals. Conflicts are unavoidable in any relationship. However, if you and your partner practice open and honest communication, I believe that there isn't anything that you can't get through.

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Do you know how to find profitable online niches for your business? 

If you don't know, you're not alone. It's easy to get overwhelmed and confused because there are so many niches to choose from.

However, if you aren't crystal clear on who you want to help and what you want to help them with, your business will flounder. Your prospective customers have goals, needs, and desires that are waiting to be met by you.

It is your role as an entrepreneur to create quality products and services that help solve people’s problems. It’s as simple as that. Are you ready to learn the 3 most profitable online niches to make money from?

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There are millions of different online niches that exist on the Internet today.

Some of these niches are more profitable or competitive than others. I believe that there is a niche for everyone, something that aligns with each person's passions and unique gifts. 

A lot of entrepreneurs get themselves into trouble because they try to be an expert at everything. I'm telling you right now that it is impossible to do this. If you go too broad, people won't be able to find you online. This is what dabblers do. Trust me when I say that dabblers never achieve success.

Any business that exists online, whether it’s software, apps, self-publishing or affiliate marketing, exists within a certain niche or market. Whatever niche you choose, you need to go deep with it and then create your entire online business around it. 

Here are the 3 most profitable online niches that have been around since the beginning of time. Keep in mind that, within these broad niches, there are many sub-niches that exist as well. A sub-niche is a great starting point. 

1. Health

Human beings want to improve their health in some way, shape, or form. Yes, this is general and broad, but if you break it down there are thousands of small sub-niches that exist within a niche. For example, health could be broken down into weight loss, ketogenic diets or cleanses.

The reason why the health niche is such a big market is that there is a high level of urgency associated with it. People are always willing to try and find solutions to problems related to their health.

For example, if people are obese, there is a level of pain there that they cope with on a daily basis. As a result, they are willing to spend money on weight loss programs or eBooks that will help them improve their lifestyle.

2. Wealth

Money is such a big part of our society, especially in the Western world. Everybody needs it in order to survive and live.

People want to know how to make more money, save more money, get out of debt, or invest their money. Specific sub-niches in this niche may be products or services that teach people about options trading, stock investing, how to start an online business, or how to sell on Amazon.

There are a lot of people in this world that are suffering from debt. They may dream of financial abundance but don’t know how to achieve it. People are willing to spend money in order to find solutions to their financial problems.

3. Relationships

As human beings, I believe that we have an innate desire to procreate with others. It is biologically built into us. In my early 20's I was heavily involved in this niche.

I didn't care about anything other than finding a girlfriend. I bought any course or product that would help me attract someone into my life. Interestingly enough, a lot of people invest in products or services in the health and wealth niche for the sole purpose of doing what I did.

Learn as much as you can about profitable online niches.

If you can identify the niche that aligns most with your interest and passions, your online business will flourish. Become an expert in a niche. Be someone that understands that market and the people within it. I've built my online businesses in the health, relationship, and money niches because I was once involved in these niches as a student.

When I was in my early 20's, I was in a desperate place in my life. These niches helped me learn that there was a way out. I had a strong desire to be the best that I could be. That is why I am so passionate about mastering every area of my life.

Once you go deep into a niche, it gives you a higher level of credibility.

A friend of mine once said, “Whatever niche or market you want to be in, go to the bookstore or the library and get all of the magazines on that niche.”

When you engage in market research, you gain a solid understanding of who your target customers are. This is what allows you to determine if there is a demand for the product or service that you want to create in your given niche. If you can find a way to provide more value than anyone else, you are winning.

There are many ways to create an online business around a niche, whether that's creating courses, developing software or apps, publishing books on Amazon, or selling physical products. I encourage you to choose a niche that has the potential for you to create multiple streams of income from it.

When you find your online business “sweet spot” that aligns with your passions, values, and strengths, you know you've hit the jackpot.

The key to online business success is finding and choosing a niche. In the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, “Successful people live well, laugh often, and love much. They've filled a niche and accomplished tasks so as to leave the world better than they found it while looking for the best in others, and giving the best they have.” 

Find your niche, master it, and use your knowledge to add value and help others.

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Learning how to overcome jealousy in a relationship is critical to creating a long-lasting relationship based on trust, respect, and unconditional love.

Let's face it, jealousy is one of the most unattractive qualities in someone. More often than not, it takes on a life of its own. It can make both partners feel like they are walking on eggshells most of the time. The result? Feelings of anger, resentment, and insecurity. By definition, jealousy is the killer of relationships.

If you struggle with jealousy in your relationship, it is important to understand the root cause of jealousy so that you and your partner can choose a more productive response the next time a trigger occurs.

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Jealousy in relationships can be toxic.

The problem with jealousy is that many people don't know where it comes from. Oftentimes, it is masking other deep-seeded insecurities that one partner is too ashamed to admit to the other. When people don't communicate how they are feeling to one another, the situation only becomes worse.

In the four years that my girlfriend Tatiana and I have been together, I can't recall very many moments when either of us experienced jealousy in our relationship. There are certain principles that we want to share with you that have led us to be so confident in our relationship and in ourselves.

Jealousy is a fear-based emotion that shows up in the form of insecurity. Psychologists call this an “inferiority complex,” which refers to an underlying impoverished ego or low self-esteem. Jealousy shines a spotlight on our weaknesses.

When we get triggered by external events in our lives, it's our job to explore what is going on inside of ourselves. When you experience jealousy, take a step back and ask yourself, “What about this situation triggered me to react in this way?” Where is this fear coming from?” Identify and define your fear.

You cannot control the external world. The only thing that you can control is how you respond to it.

Maybe you were cheated on in the past and you are still carrying emotional wounds from a previous relationship. As a result, you may feel jealous when your partner even talks to someone else because it triggers pain inside of you.

You need to realize that the past does not equal the future. If you don't do the work to move on from past jealousy, you will sabotage your current relationship. Once you know what is going on inside of you, then you can take the steps to improve yourself and your relationship.

Tatiana gets looked at and approached by men all the time, especially now that she has become an online influencer. I could easily get jealous, possessive, and angry when guys write comments about her on her YouTube channel or private message her on Instagram, but it doesn't even cross my mind.

Here are 3 reasons why Tatiana and I don't experience jealousy in our relationship.

1. We Have High Self-Confidence

I have confidence in who I am as a human being, a man, and a partner. I know that I'm worth it and trust that I can provide Tatiana with value in a way that nobody else can. It sounds arrogant, but it's not. I believe in the connection, passion, and love that we have for one another. I believe that there is no better match on this planet for her than me and she feels the same way about me. We have a soul connection that is eternal.

Maybe there is someone better for both of us, but my belief empowers and serves us in our relationship. It gives us that certainty and security in ourselves and as a couple. If you want to identify what your value is, create a list of the qualities that make you a great catch.

Why are you special? What can you offer your partner that nobody else can? 

I may not receive as many inappropriate messages as Tatiana does, but she understands my masculine energy. Even though we are in a committed relationship, that doesn't mean that Tatiana may not be attracted to another man, and vice versa. We could get jealous by this, but we have so much confidence in our relationship that it doesn't bother us.

2. We Have Strong Communication Skills

Tatiana and I have built up so much trust that in our relationship because we make communication a top priority. When you have that type of connection with someone anything can be discussed, without fear of being turned down or mocked.

Tony Robbins teaches people about the six human needs  – certainty, variety, connection, love, growth, and contribution. Certainty is a big one. If two people don't have a high level of certainty in their relationship, then it is more likely that jealousy will occur.

However, when two people believe that they are a going to spend the rest of their lives together, there is no room for fear, doubt, or worry. You have to build this certainty and confidence in one another. It doesn't magically happen.

Tatiana and I allow each other to communicate our needs so that we understand what each of us needs. If I have a moment of jealousy, I express it because I know that she won't judge me. We've created that safe container and it's served our relationship well.

3. We Live From A Place Of Abundance

Tatiana is her own person. She has the right to be happy in life. That is what I want for her. If she would rather be happier with someone else than me, then I would want that for her. Yes, I want to be with her for the rest of my life and I would be sad if we parted. However, I'm never going to inhibit her desires because of my selfish needs. When you want the best for one another, you give each other the freedom to be themselves.

A friend of mine once shared with me a very powerful relationship analogy. A woman or a man is like a butterfly that has landed in your hand. It's beautiful. You want to cherish and appreciate it. However, a lot of people end up suffocating the one person that they love. They become controlling, domineering, and overly protective. They give them rules about what they can and cannot do.

If you do this, that butterfly will feel trapped and resentful. It may fly away. This is the worst thing that you can do. You have to be okay and comfortable with that butterfly just being in your life. That man or woman in your life could leave you. You have to be comfortable with that idea.

It's only when someone has the freedom to leave that they decide to stay.

If you don't give it to them, that is the beginning of the end. In the words of Thich Nhat Hanh, “If our love is only a will to possess, it is not love.”

Tatiana doesn't put any rules on me, nor do I on her. We both have enough maturity to make educated and smart decisions, based on our values and the trust that we have in our relationship.

When you live from a place of abundance, there is no room for jealousy because you and your partner have developed a high level of trust. With this mindset, there is no room for fear. This is when you know that you are truly aligned with your partner.

These are our solutions for how to overcome jealousy in a relationship.

Make sure to check out Tatiana's YouTube channel, which provides a lot of great tips and strategies for the modern day woman.

If jealousy is destroying your relationship, I encourage you to adopt some of the principles that Tatiana and I have shared with you. Love is a beautiful thing. Always strive to grow and improve yourself and the connection that you have with your partner. Doing so will allow both of you to become better people and better partners.

In the words of Toni Payne, “Be with someone who wants you to grow.”

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Emotional intelligence is the best-kept secret of entrepreneurial success.

For many years “being smart” was defined based on one's intellectual intelligence, otherwise referred to as IQ. People didn't think that emotions and business went well together. However that all changed in the '90s when emotional intelligence (EQ) came onto the scene.

First developed by Mayer and Salovey, and later popularized by Ronald Goleman, the concept of emotional intelligence created a huge debate as to what was more important in determining one's success in life – street smarts or book smarts.

Decades of research now point to emotional intelligence as the critical factor that differentiates star performers from the rest of the pack. It's no longer a luxury; today's entrepreneur needs emotional intelligence if they want to succeed in business. It has become the new gold standard.

Are you ready to learn 6 reasons why emotional intelligence is a skill that you need to master?

In the video below I talk about how you can master your emotions in 3 easy steps:

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When you envision a successful entrepreneur, what comes to your mind? For a lot of people, the most important personality traits of an entrepreneur are things like persistence, risk-taking, and resourcefulness. Don't get me wrong… these are important. However, when it comes to creating a business that stands the test of time, developing emotional intelligence is the secret sauce.

What is emotional intelligence?

In the emotional intelligence book, The EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Success, Steven J. Stein, Ph.D. and Howard E. Book define EQ as “The set of skills that enable us to make our way in a complex world… It has to do with the ability to read the political and social environment, and landscape them; to intuitively grasp what others want and need, what strengths and weaknesses are; to remain unruffled by stress; and to be engaging. The kind of person others want to be around and will follow.” 

In short, EQ is all about effectively identifying and managing your own emotions and the emotions of others.

For an entrepreneur, mastering this skill can be the difference between success and failure. Those entrepreneurs that neglect to develop emotional intelligence tend to get stressed easily make more mistakes, and make reactive decisions.

Not surprisingly, they struggle to experience success.

Gary Vaynerchuck, a successful entrepreneur, author, and speaker, identifies why emotional intelligence is so important to business owners – “If I could sell a formula made up of gratitude, empathy, and self-awareness it would be my billion-dollar coconut water idea.” 

The great news is that emotional intelligence is comprised of a flexible set of skills that can be developed and improved over time. In his book, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, Daniel Goleman suggests that there are 5 components of emotional intelligence:

1. Self-Awareness – The ability to understand your own emotions and how they affect the people around you.

2. Self-Regulation – The ability to effectively manage and express your emotions.

3. Intrinsic Motivation – One's personal drive to improve and achieve.

4. Empathy – The ability to understand how others are feeling.

5. Social Skills – The ability to develop a strong rapport with others.

Being an entrepreneur means that you are wearing a lot of different hats, putting out fires, solving problems, fixing mistakes, selling their brand, interacting with team members, clients, and prospective customers; all while trying to understand the never-ending complexities of the business world.

Overwhelming, right? Entrepreneurship is a rollercoaster ride of highs and lows. This is why emotional intelligence skills play a critical role in the overall quality of our personal and professional lives.

Unlike IQ, which stays fairly stable over our lifetime, EQ is something that can be improved. It comes down to one's desire to learn and grow. Let's explore 5 ways that you can develop your emotional intelligence.

1. Increase Your Self-Awareness 

Self-awareness is the foundation of emotional intelligence. Knowing who you are, including what your strengths and weaknesses are, is critical to your success as an entrepreneur.

Korn Ferry Hay Group research found that among leaders with multiple strengths in Emotional Self-Awareness, 92% had teams with high energy and high performance. In contrast, leaders low in Emotional Self-Awareness created negative climates 78% of the time.

When you are able to express how you feel in a healthy way and have an awareness of how your emotions affect those around you, you will be better able to address problems the moment that they arise.

2. Master Your Emotions

If you are just starting your entrepreneurial journey or are already on it, then you know what I mean when I say that it isn't a walk in the park. Entrepreneurs have to deal with new challenges on a daily basis, whether that's managing team members, learning new skills, or dealing with disgruntled customers.

Sometimes it can feel like you have zero control. This is when learning how to master your emotions becomes very important. The reality is that we don't have control over anything that happens to us. The only thing that we have control over is our inside world.

In the words of John Maxwell, “Life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it.”

Instead of reacting when faced with challenges, entrepreneurs that have high emotional intelligence are proactive. They don't make emotional decisions and attack others. Rather, they carefully think about a situation before responding. Triggers are a normal part of life, especially in the world of business. It is up to you how you choose to interpret and respond to difficult situations.

3. Improve Your Communication Skills

You can be the best in your industry, but if you don't know how to effectively communicate with your customers, clients, and colleagues, then you won't be successful. In the business world, communication happens in many different ways, with many different people, whether that's face-to-face or online.

How well do you communicate with others? Studies suggest that our daily communication breakdown is as follows:

• 9 percent writing
• 16 percent reading
• 30 percent speaking
• 45 percent listening

Unfortunately, a lot of people struggle with active listening because they are either talking over someone or are too consumed with what's going on in their own head to pay attention to what the other person is saying. As Peter Drucker says, “The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn't being said.”

Successful entrepreneurs who possess strong emotional intelligence value the importance of listening. They realize that, by allowing others to feel heard, it creates trust with people. Furthermore, it allows them to learn more about who their audience is and what makes them tick.

4. Show Genuine Concern For Others

Demonstrating empathy for others means that you are committed to putting yourself in someone else's shoes. It's about uncovering the deeper meaning behind why people do what they do.

The next time a client or a customer does something that doesn't feel aligned with your beliefs, ask yourself, “Why does this person feel the way he or she does?  How can I show up for him or her from a place of respect and integrity, while still honoring my truth?”

Take the time to look at situations from multiple perspectives and pay close attention to your feelings. You may be surprised what comes up for you.

Entrepreneurs with high emotional intelligence are skilled at creating strong relationships with people because they have a genuine interest and concern for their well-being. As a result, they are master influencers. People want to follow their work because they trust who they are as a person and what they stand for.

5. Create A Stress Reliever Toolkit 

Entrepreneurs know what stress feels like. It comes with the territory. In the business world, if you don't know how to effectively cope with day-to-day-stressors, you will experience burnout fast. I encourage you to create a personal toolkit of stress reliever techniques that you can practice on a daily basis.

This is why I'm such a big fan of a morning ritual. By conditioning my mindset every morning I am able to put myself into a peak mental and emotional state. Highly successful people are consistently calm, composed and focused under pressure because they are always monitoring their emotional state.

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By committing to practicing healthy habits every single day — like meditation, yoga, or reading, — you set yourself up for success.

6. Embrace Lifelong Learning 

Successful entrepreneurs commit to a neverending process of personal growth and development. They welcome and actively seek out constructive feedback from their colleagues, mentors, coaches, peers, and team members because they want to improve themselves. Weaknesses are only seen as opportunities to grow and become more.

By adopting a growth mindset and harnessing the power of emotional intelligence, you will be better able to make your emotions work for you, instead of against you. It's important to remember that emotional intelligence requires constant improvement.

It's not a skill that you develop once and then forget about. As your business grows, you will grow with it, which means that you will have to adapt your style of relating to yourself and others.

Developing emotional intelligence is the best-kept secret for entrepreneurial success.

In the words of Daniel Goleman himself, “If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.”

The only way to develop emotional intelligence is by practicing it in action. Just like any skill that you want to master, it will require that you invest time, energy, hard work, and effort into it.

Are you ready to master the art of emotional intelligence? The success of your business depends on it.

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The secret to sexual attraction is polarity.

When it comes to sexuality, polarity refers to the attraction or pull that we feel towards someone when they have an energy that is in opposition to our own.

As Tantric author David Deida says, “Sexual attraction is based on sexual polarity. All natural forces flow between two poles. The masculine and feminine poles between people create a flow of sexual energy in motion. 

In romantic relationships, polarity shows up as masculine and feminine energy. We all have a combination of both energies within us, but we all feel more aligned to one over the other.

If two people have a similar polarity, guess what happens? Their attraction to one another diminishes. Hence, a relationship thrives when there is a distinct polarity between partners. That is the secret to sexual attraction.

Are you ready to learn how you can amplify your masculine or feminine energy and polarize your relationship with your partner?

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People search high and low for the secret to sexual attraction.

Before we can understand how to create polarity in our relationships, we need to understand which energy we feel most aligned with. Is masculine or feminine energy your strength? Whatever energy that you relate to the most is the one that you need to predominantly express as the secret to sexual attraction.

Stereotypically, men are considered to be masculine, and women are considered to be feminine. However, this generalization doesn’t always hold true.

There are women who are more in their masculine and men who are more in their feminine. This is an outdated representation of the sexes. Traditionally, men and women have been thought to be on opposite ends of the spectrum with regards to their genetic makeup.

However, a growing body of research shows that neurologically we are all a mix of both masculine and feminine energy. Masculine energy is direct, aggressive, and action-oriented with a focus toward achievement. Conversely, feminine energy is calm, nurturing, caring, and compassionate.

Masculine and feminine energy depend upon one another to exist. This is why men gravitate towards women that are soft, caring, and sensitive, and women desire men who are assertive, strong, and decisive as the secret to sexual attraction.

I was very feminized when I was younger because I spent a lot of time with my Mom and sister.  I was brought up to honor and embrace feminine qualities, like sensitivity and vulnerability, but I was missing masculine energy.

Even though my Dad was a masculine figure, a large part of me feared him. As a result, I used to be intimidated by powerful men. I had to force myself to engage in more sports and activities that allowed me to tap into my masculine side. When I did, not surprisingly I became more attractive to the opposite sex.

Men and women need both masculine and feminine energy.

For a man, displaying his masculine side is great for achieving things, and his feminine side brings out his loving and supportive nature. For a woman, her masculine side is great for being resilient in the face of challenges and taking action, and her feminine side brings out her vulnerability and nurturing energy.

There are two types of masculine and feminine energies. The two types of male characters that portray different aspects of masculinity are light and dark masculine. The Light Masculine is a man who is a gentleman; he is worldly and sophisticated. The Dark Masculine is a man who is more competitive and aggressive.

When it comes to women, a light feminine woman is cheerful and happy, whereas a dark feminine woman is naughty, sensual, and wild. This duality is best described by Anne Boleyn about herself and her sister in the movie, The Other Boleyn Girl – “I shall be dark and French and fashionable and difficult. And you shall be sweet and open and English and fair. What a pair we shall be! What man can resist us?”

Women and men should embody both energies. You want to be more dominantly light, but you also need to have some dark as well.

Why do you think the pornography industry is so popular?

It’s because a man may want to have a light feminine woman at home but still crave the dark feminine. If he doesn’t receive both, he may look for it somewhere else. The same thing goes for women. They want a man to be more dominant and to take charge because it makes them feel more alive. However, they also need a man who will empathize with her, have an open heart, and take care of their needs.

It comes down to knowing your partner as the secret to sexual attraction… well enough to understand what it is that they need. Does your partner need the light or the dark?

I encourage you to read the book, No More Mr. Nice Guy written by Dr. Robert Glover. He coined the term, “Nice Guy Syndrome” as a man who tries too hard to get validation from women, at the expense of his own needs. The result? Resentment.

When it comes to a relationship, lack of polarity can destroy the passion between you and your partner. If I am a masculine man, and my woman is displaying more masculine energy, then our sexual attraction is going to diminish because there isn’t enough polarity.

However, I want to emphasize that it’s important that men and women display a combination of both types of energies in a relationship and as the secret to sexual attraction.

It’s all about balance.

In his book, The Way Of The Superior Man, David Deida says that “the ultimate challenge for today’s man is to unify heart and spine through the full expression of consciousness and love in the infinite openness of the present moment.”

Some of you may be wondering, “So, how do you keep the sexual attraction going strong in a relationship?” Let’s explore a few ways that men and women can enhance their feminine or masculine nature and maintain polarity in their relationships.

Masculine

Masculinity is the expression of a man’s innate drive towards strength, achievement, and power. Here are 3 ways that men can awaken their masculine energy in order to polarize the feminine.

Have Man Time

When men surround themselves with other men, they complement and soak up each other’s energies. Evolutionary studies show that men really open up and reveal their true colors only when they’re with other men. Having this time allows men to express things to one another that only men will understand, and engage in activities that they are passionate about.

Engage In Sport

A great way for men to tap into their masculine energy is to engage in activities that allow them to consciously practice aggression in a healthy and safe way. Martial arts has been a great way for me to embrace my inner masculinity. It brings out my raw, animalistic side that makes me feel unstoppable in the face of adversity.

Lift Weights

Lifting weights is a great way to put yourself into a masculine state of mind. Challenging your body not only promotes mental strength, but it also gives you a massive boost of testosterone. This helps to increase your sex drive, motivation, and self-confidence.

A study has shown that after only 4 weeks of lifting weights there is a 40% increase in resting testosterone and a 24% reduction in cortisol. Building muscle and burning fat not only makes men feel and look better, but it also makes them more attractive to women, serving as the secret to sexual attraction.

Feminine

Femininity is the unique expression of a woman's innate desire towards compassion, connection and caring. Here are 3 ways that women can awaken their feminine energy in order to polarize the masculine.

Move Your Body

Feminine energy is all about flow, physicality, surrender, and movement. When a woman’s body is in a stagnant state, emotions get stuck. In this place, she is unable to express herself fully.

Find freedom through movement, whether that means walking, stretching, doing yoga, or dancing. Doing so will allow you to activate your divine feminine energy and connect with your sexuality.

Create A Sacred Space

Feminine energy best respond to spaces that are created with love. Create a daily ritual that allows you to connect with your divine power, express your creativity, quiet your mind, be present, and set intentions.

Sacred practices like meditation, journaling, lighting candles, or listening to music awakens and nurtures the divine feminine. When you make self-care a priority, you deepen your connection with yourself.

Feel Your Feelings

We are all emotional beings, but many of us have been conditioned to hide our feelings, for fear that we will be judged as weak or sensitive.

Feminine energy is all about feeling, expressing, and allowing. When emotions are blocked, feminine energy cannot flow. Be vulnerable and allow yourself to feel your feelings, without judgment.

When you listen to how you feel and act in accordance with those feelings, you will make decisions that are more in alignment with your higher self.

The secret to sexual attraction is polarity.

The more different someone is from you, the more attractive they are to you. When a woman surrenders to her feminine energy she attracts the masculine. When a man embodies his strong masculine energy, he attracts the feminine.

In order to live a happy and healthy life, it’s important that each of us cultivate a balance of masculine and feminine energy as the secret to sexual attraction. However, when it comes to your romantic relationship, it is imperative that you fall back into the energetic state that feels most natural for you.

When polarity diminishes, so does attraction. It doesn’t matter if a man plays more of a feminine role in a heterosexual relationship and a woman plays more of a masculine one.

If you want to keep the spark alive in your relationship, do the work to ensure that you are aware of what your partner's needs are. When you do, you will experience an energetic polarity that is like nothing you have ever experienced before.

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The secret to making people like you is much easier than you think. Deep down we all have a desire to be loved and appreciated by others. It’s like oxygen for our soul.

However, in order for those feelings to be reciprocated, you need to appear likeable. We all know that first impressions are everything. It only takes a few seconds for someone to determine whether or not they like you.

There is no trick or manipulation technique to making other people like you. Rather, it’s a way of being, which will allow people to naturally gravitate towards you, with no strings attached.

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The reality is that the more people that like you, the greater the likelihood that you will attract better relationships and opportunities into your life. Imagine how much your life would change if this happened?

Being likeable is under your control, and it comes down to emotional intelligence (EQ).

The holy grail of making people like you comes down to one core trait – care more. When you show genuine compassion and love for other human beings, you have the ability to make a positive difference in the world. This is the secret to making people like you.

In order to care more, it requires that you raise your level of consciousness, shifting from egocentric, to ethnocentric, to world-centric.

Unfortunately we live in a world where a lot of people possess an egocentric level of consciousness, meaning that they only focus on themselves and their needs.

One of my biggest pet peeves is when you meet someone and all they do is talk about their life. They have no sense of self-awareness of how their communication is impacting you.

Do you know how many people come to me every day and complain about how they are not making enough money in their business. At the end of the day it’s all about them. They are so selfish and focused on themselves.

My question to them would be, “What value are you providing that makes you worthy and deserving of making money?”

The belief system that I have is more spiritual in nature. I believe that all human beings are one; we are all part of the same humanity. Adopting this mindset is what will allow you to care more, and when you care more, you shift the way that you communicate with others.

In his book, How To Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie shares that there are 6 ways to have someone like you:

Rule #1 – Become genuinely interested in other people

Rule #2 – Smile.

Rule #3 – Remember that a person’s name is to him or her the sweetest and most important sound.

Rule #4 – Be a good listener.

Rule #5 – Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.

Rule #6 – Make the other person feel important.

At the end of the day, it all comes down to caring more about other people. This is the secret to making people like you. The most respected people in this world are the ones that are living at the highest level of consciousness. This is the definition of a true leader.

Step up, expand your consciousness, and care more. It is the most attractive quality that will naturally draw people to you.

The fact of the matter is that we are all human, and because of this, we are all one. In the words of Nelson Mandela, “Our human compassion binds us to one another – not in pity or patronizingly, but as human beings who have learnt how to turn our common suffering into hope for the future.”

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