Let's talk about sex, passion, & enlightenment.

This is Part 2 of our best relationship advice series where Tatiana and I answer your questions.

In Part 1, we talked about how to keep things exciting in a long-term relationship, how to find your perfect soulmate, and how to deal with arguments.

In this blog, we dive into some juicier topics and we don't hold back with our answers.

If you have the desire to rekindle the passion and intimacy in your relationship, read this!

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To love and be loved in return is the ultimate gift.

The test of a life well-lived has nothing to do with money and everything to do with love. One of the sole purposes of a relationship is to amplify human emotion. Whenever I've achieved big successes in my life or business, guess who I've wanted to share it with?

Tatiana!

She is the love of my life. When great things happen I want to share them with her. Being in an intimate relationship is one of the most powerful ways to grow spiritually. The experiences that Tatiana and I have shared are greater than anything else we've achieved in our lives, combined.

By no means do we have a perfect relationship. However, we've learned a lot of relationship principles over the last 7 years that we've been together. These principles have helped us create a healthy and long-lasting relationship, based on love, passion, and intimacy.

Whether you're already in a committed relationship or are still looking for love, the relationship advice that we share with you today will add value to your life. Let's dive in!

How do you improve your sex life after being together for 7 years?

First, it's important to understand the dynamics of masculine and feminine energy. What creates passion and spark in a relationship is sexual polarity. Both men and women can have masculine and feminine energy. However, each of us has a certain nature. My nature is more masculine, whereas other men's nature is more feminine.

Knowing what nature you connect with most is very important.

If you want to have passion and attraction in a relationship you need to create polarity. Opposing masculine and feminine energies, when they are truly embraced in a relationship, are what create that “spark” of sexual energy.

When it comes to our sex life, we use these energies when it's appropriate. In business, I know that I need to bring out my masculine energy. However, when it comes to our relationship, we want to make sure that we have polarity.

Tatiana's nature is to be in her feminine, so she likes to do specific things that allow her to connect with her feminine energy. When she's in her feminine, I'm drawn to her and I want to claim her. In turn, she has the desire to surrender and be claimed by me. If you're in a relationship that is missing intimacy and passion it is usually because there is depolarization.

In this day and age, a lot of women find it challenging to embrace their feminine energy. Why? Because masculine energy tends to be rewarded more in business. As an example, Tatiana is an entrepreneur who spends the majority of her day using her masculine energy.

After a long day, it can be hard for her to transition back into her feminine energy with me. This is when polarity suffers. To counteract this, Tatiana takes some solo time for herself after work. This allows her to make the transition from her masculine to her feminine energy. This may look like taking a hot shower to cleanse away the day, doing her makeup, or spending some time dancing.

It will look different for everyone.

There are certain things that you can do in your relationship that will help to elicit feminine or masculine energy in your partner. One simple practice that Tatiana and I like to engage in is eye gazing. We will sit facing each other with our hands on one another's hearts.

Sometimes we will match and mirror our breathing so that we experience synchronicity. When we do this, we can literally feel what one another is feeling. Eye gazing is a powerful practice for creating a presence with your partner and connecting with him/her on a deeper level.

When I'm looking at her I'm giving her my undivided attention. I want her to feel all of my love. In turn, she feels my presence and my energy through my gaze. The feminine is like a flower. When a woman feels a man's presence, she blossoms and dissolves into her feminine energy.

When it comes to having sex with your partner, it's important to understand that there is light and dark energy. Sometimes people will only allow themselves to bring out one type of energy. When this happens, there's a part of your and your relationship that doesn't get to be experienced.

Tatiana and I make it a priority to explore dark and light energy in the bedroom. You have to read your partner's body language and respond to what he or she is asking for sexually.

We highly recommend that you read the book Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships by Marnia Robinson. She studied all of the different philosophies and religions related to relationships. In her book, she shares a spiritual sexual practice called The Karezza Method.

This is a way of making love to your partner that is very slow and sensual.

When you make love with this practice, the goal isn't to have an orgasm or to ejaculate. Rather, the goal is to deepen the sexual and emotional connection with your partner through sensual touch.

Another great book is called The Multi-Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia, which teaches you how to have orgasms without ejaculating by challenging the energy through your chakras. Tatiana and I go several months at a time without orgasming or ejaculating and we've noticed so many benefits in our relationship from doing so.

Do you get jealous if Tatiana makes more money than you, and vice versa? 

Absolutely not. We are on the same team. I want Tatiana to fulfill her potential and achieve whatever goals she desires. We don't have fear around that. I don't define my happiness, identity, or self-worth based on how much money she or I make.

If you want to learn more about Tatiana and the work that she does, I highly recommend that you subscribe to her YouTube channel and follow her on Instagram.

Over the last few years, we've done well financially to the point that we never have to work again. However, there was a time in both of our lives when becoming financially free was important. Unfortunately, that mentality made us feel that we never had enough money.

Lately, we've been working on giving up a lot of the attachment that we once had to money. Today, our mental and emotional health, spirituality, family, and relationship are our top priorities.

This is our best relationship advice on sex, passion & enlightenment.

Everyone wants and deserves to experience connection, passion, and intimacy with their partner. We hope our advice inspires you to reignite passion in your relationship or helps you to get clear on what qualities are important to you in a partner.

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Tatiana and I want to give you our BEST relationship advice.

A successful relationship doesn't happen overnight. It takes commitment, patience, and the willingness to grow, together and alone.

Recently Tatiana and I asked our YouTube subscribers and Instagram followers for their top relationship questions.

Inside this blog, we answer those questions, based on our experience of being together for 7+ years.

Keep reading to discover our best advice for building a healthy, happy, and long-lasting relationship!

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Great relationships take hard work.

My love for Tatiana continues to grow in the most beautiful of ways because we take the time to invest in our relationship. Below Tatiana and I share our answers to some of your questions about love and relationships.

We hope that these relationship tips help you to understand yourself and your partner on a deeper level. If you want to learn more about Tatiana and the work that she does, I highly recommend that you subscribe to her YouTube channel and follow her on Instagram.

On that note, let's dive into the questions!

How do you keep things exciting in a long-term relationship?

Just like any other aspect of your life, you have to constantly focus on your relationship. One thing that has helped Tatiana and me is the 6 human needs framework that we learned from Tony Robbins.

Tony believes that the following 6 needs drive all human behavior – certainty, uncertainty/variety, significance, connection/love, growth, and contribution. If you're focused on fulfilling and meeting your partner's needs at a high level, you're going to have an incredible relationship.

When a relationship is lacking passion and intimacy oftentimes it means that there are needs that aren't being fulfilled by one or both partners. What we love about Tony's framework is that it's an easy way to measure where you're at in your relationship.

In particular, which needs are being fulfilled and which ones aren't being fulfilled.

Tatiana and I engage in a weekly relationship ritual where we go through the 6 human needs and list on a scale of 1-10 where our needs are being met. If either of us scores below a 7 on any of the 6 human needs, we talk about how we can get that number to a level 10.

This ritual will do wonders for your relationship. It gives you an opportunity to connect with your partner on a deeper level and work ON your relationship, instead of IN it.

There are 3 levels to a relationship. The first level is all about you. This is a selfish way of relating.

The second level is when you're giving love to receive love. It's merely an exchange.

The third level is when you are striving to meet your partner's needs above your own. By contributing beyond yourself, your partner will reciprocate. As a result, both of you will get your needs met in the relationship.

A lot of couples fall into the trap of giving what they think their partner needs. Oftentimes, it's not what their partner is asking for. It's important to understand that your partner may feel and/or express each of the 6 human needs in a different way from you.

Each person feels love in a different way. This is why it's important to understand what your love language is, and what the love language of your partner is. If you have yet to read the book The 5 Love Languages, we highly recommend that you do.

The 5 love languages include acts of service, quality time, words of affirmation, physical touch, and receiving gifts.

As part of our relationship ritual, Tatiana and I also ask one another the following questions:

• How can I better meet your needs?
• What is great about our relationship?
• How can I better meet your love language?
• What do you appreciate about me? 
• How can we create more love and passion in our relationship? 

We also take some time to share the magic moments that we experienced throughout the week together. By reliving those memories, we are acknowledging what is working well in our relationship.

Make it your goal to figure out how you can meet and fulfill your partner's needs at the highest level. If you can do that, you'll have an amazing relationship filled with passion and excitement. Keep in mind this relationship ritual requires allocating time and attention to your relationship, in the same way that you do for your business, health, or hobbies.

In the beginning stages of dating someone, it's easy to put in the effort. Everything is new and exciting. However, in long-term relationships, people tend to get complacent. They stop making an effort to meet the needs of their partner because they feel ‘secure.'

Unfortunately, this way of thinking and behaving can lead to resentment.

From our experience, if you do what you did at the beginning of your relationship, there will never be an end.

Apart from meeting your partner's needs, it is imperative that you meet your own needs as well. Make it a priority to spend time alone. Nourish your mind, body, and spirit so that you can be at your best. This is what will allow you to be at your best in your relationship.

How can I find my soulmate?

In my early 20s, I was a dating coach. I helped men improve their confidence and social skills. The reason why I started this business is that I was extremely shy and had a hard time talking to women. That was a huge pain point in my life.

I took the time to learn about relationships and find ways to improve myself so that I could attract the woman that I desired. The first step to attracting your soulmate is getting clarity on what YOU want in a partner. If you don't know what you want, you won't know if it passes you by.

When I went through this self-reflection process, I was very specific about the type of partner I wanted to attract into my life.

I thought about what I wanted my ideal partner's physical appearance to look like, to her character traits and favorite hobbies. From the list that I created, I identified my non-negotiables.

Once you get clarity on the type of partner that you want, ask yourself the question, “Who do I need to become to attract this person into my life?” You attract what you are. Determine what the best possible version of yourself looks like and then do the inner work to become that person.

How do you deal with arguments?

Arguments ensue between couples when they are in their ego. At the end of the day, your ego is just fear. It's trying to preserve your identity and the beliefs that you have. Your ego says, “I'm right and you're wrong.”

To become a more conscious person, you have to be willing to let go of your attachment to being right. You have to be willing to look at your partner's perspective. As Stephen Covey said, “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.”

There are times when Tatiana and I disagree or get annoyed with one another. However, we never allow our standards to drop to the point where we disrespect each other. We both came from families where our parents fought with one another a lot. We made a pact that we never wanted to be in a relationship like that.

Respect is key in a relationship.

When you argue with your partner it is more of a reflection of what is going on inside of you. It's your responsibility to understand what the root of your emotional triggers are and do the work to heal them.

Whenever you're arguing with your partner ask yourself, “Do I want to be right, or do I want to be in love?” Ultimately, there's a lot of things that Tatiana and I let go of because our goal is to choose the higher path, which is love.

This is our BEST relationship advice.

Falling in love is easy, but staying in love takes commitment and work. If you put our advice into practice, your relationship has the power to grow in ways that you never thought were possible.

Choose one another. Choose love. Life is hard enough.

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There are 7 keys that you MUST know if you want to have a successful relationship.

Happy Valentines Day, everyone! Today is a day to celebrate love. To love and be loved is a beautiful thing.

Tatiana and I want to share with you the principles that have helped us build and maintain the ultimate relationship.

Whether you're looking to create more intimacy in your current relationship, or you're single and are ready to attract a partner into your life, these principles will be of value to you.

If you have the desire to build a successful relationship and a lifetime of love, keep reading…

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A successful relationship doesn't happen overnight.

All relationships go through ups and downs. It's natural to not think of relationships as something that you need to develop skills for, but you do. It takes patience, work, and commitment to building a strong relationship that will stand the test of time.

A lot of couples fall into the trap of getting too comfortable with one another, to the point that they get complacent. In short, they take their partner for granted and stop making their relationship a priority.

Staying healthy takes work. Raising kids takes work. Building a business takes work. Why shouldn't having a great relationship take work too? Year after year, Tatiana and I have made it a priority to give our relationship the love and care that it deserves. As a result, we've been able to continually grow, both as individuals and as a couple.

Here are some tips that will help you build a successful relationship, whether you're currently in a relationship or you're single.

Tip #1 – Know Your Attachment Style 

Do you know what your attachment style is, and what your partner's style is? If you haven't already, we encourage you to read the book Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love. Your attachment style will help you understand and explain your behavior in an intimate relationship.

Attachment theory suggests that there are three main types of attachment. Attachment styles first develop in childhood. The nature of our attachment to one or both of our parents influences the nature of our attachment to our romantic partners in adulthood.

1. Secure Attachment Style

A person who has a secure attachment style has an advantage in relationships. They are secure within themselves. Thus, they are very independent and don't feel like they need their partner to feel a sense of wholeness. They also tend to be able to effectively communicate their emotions to their partner openly and honestly.

2. Anxious Attachment Style

A person who has an anxious attachment style is more insecure and needy in a relationship. Therefore, they tend to require constant reassurance from their partner that they are loved and wanted. Their struggles can be rooted in the fear of being rejected or abandoned by their partner. Thus, the feeling of being alone or single makes them very uncomfortable.

3. Avoidant Attachment Style

A person who has an avoidant attachment style has a harder time being in relationships. They love their independence and freedom. Being in a relationship can feel like they've lost their sense of self. Thus, they may have a lot of partners but never be able to settle down with one person. Moreover, they may struggle to experience deep intimacy because they prefer to love at a distance, for fear that they will be too suffocated.

Which attachment style do you gravitate towards?

The great news is that an attachment style can change over time. If you have an anxious or avoidant attachment style, strive to move your attachment style towards one that is more secure. When both partners are secure, a relationship flourishes.

Tip #2 – Create A Compelling Relationship Vision 

Oftentimes, people enter into relationships with their own values, dreams, and desires. However, they don't communicate those truths with their partner. If your partner doesn't share the same vision as you, you're bound to experience challenges down the road.

This is why Tatiana and I believe in creating a relationship vision. Think of a relationship vision as a roadmap for what you want your relationship journey to look like. A shared vision allows you and your partner to focus your energy on creating a life together.

If you're in a relationship, I recommend that you and your partner take some time separately to reflect upon what your vision is for the relationship. What do you want from your relationship? How do you want to show up in your relationship? What kind of partner do you want to have?

Once you've gone through this process, express to your partner what came up for you, and build a shared vision together. If you're single, get clarity on what your needs and wants are. What are your “musts” in a partner? Equally, make sure that you're showing up for yourself and being the kind of partner that you want to be.

Tip #3 – Understand Love Languages

A love language reflects how you feel and interpret love. Everyone has a love language. In his book, The Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman states that there are five love languages, which include the following:

1. Gifts – giving flowers, a love note, or a box of chocolates.

2. Acts of service – doing things for your partner, like emptying the dishwasher, making dinner, or giving a massage.

3. Words of affirmation – saying loving and encouraging things to your partner.

4. Physical touch – touching your partner, in the form of hand-holding, intimacy, or cuddling.

5. Quality time – spending quality time with your partner.

What is your primary love language? What is your partner's love language is? Keep in mind that we all give and receive love in our own ways. A relationship is not a place that you go to get. Rather, it's a place that you go to give.

Be willing to tell your partner what makes you feel loved, and be willing to give your partner the love that they need. This is how you will be able to create more love and intimacy in your relationship.

In the words of Tony Robbins – “Trade your expectation for appreciation.” When you and your partner appreciate, love, and accept every aspect of one another, you can transcend your love to another level.

Tip #4 – Become Who You Want To Attract

Once you get clarity on what you want in a partner and a relationship, you have to do the inner work to attract that which you want. For example, if you want to create more love and passion in your relationship, you have to become more loving and passionate.

If something is important to you, but you fail to embody it yourself, naturally you will hope that it is given to you by someone else. For those of you who are single, ask yourself – are you the kind of person with whom your ideal partner would fall in love with?

If your answer is no, then commit to doing the work to become that person before you start dating. Similarly, if you're in a relationship, ask yourself if you're still growing with your partner, or if you've become too complacent in the relationship.

When you strive to become the best version of yourself, you will attract someone who is also the best version of themselves. That is a recipe for healthy love.

These are 4 keys for building a successful relationship, but there are more!

I encourage you to head on over to Tatiana's YouTube channel to learn about the last 3 keys. Valentine's Day is about love in all its forms.

Today, and every day thereafter, give love to people whom you care about, whether that's a partner, a friend, or a pet! More importantly, give love for yourself. At the end of the day, this is the most important relationship that you will ever have.

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Are you ready to know how to stop being jealous in a relationship?

One of the members in my Life Mastery Accelerator program recently asked me for some advice on how he can curb his jealous ways.

First and foremost, it's important to realize that jealousy is a natural emotion. 

However, the problem with it is that it masks other feelings and attitudes that are even more hurtful to those closest to us.

Don't allow jealousy to destroy your relationship. Ready for my advice on how to stop being jealous in a relationship?

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Jealousy can be a relationship killer.

When we are jealous, essentially we are worried that our partner is attracted to someone else. That feeling evokes fear that we may be rejected or abandoned. Therefore, jealousy becomes a coping mechanism by which people protect themselves from being hurt.

Unfortunately, when these fears aren't grounded in truth, the result can be anger, hurt and/or confusion from one or both partners. Once it gets out of hand, jealousy has a way of destroying a perfectly healthy relationship. In this blog, I would like to personally address my response to the man who is struggling with jealousy.

The first question I would ask you is, “Do you trust your partner?” If the answer is yes, you have to have faith that she loves you enough to not betray your relationship. Not surprisingly, research shows that trusting your partner has their best interests at heart is one of the most important and highly valued qualities in romantic relationships.

You cannot demand trust in a relationship. Rather, trust is a choice that two people make. If you're jealous, perhaps a part of you is lacking trust in your partner. If this is the case, I encourage you to look within yourself and figure out why you feel this way.

Oftentimes, jealousy stems from feelings of insecurity.

If you are secure in yourself, you won't feel threatened by other men talking to your girlfriend. My fiancée has men approach and hit on her all of the time, both online and in-person.

However, I am not threatened in any way because I know who she is as a person and I'm secure in our relationship. More importantly, I'm confident and secure within myself. I'm a big fan of the Buddhist principle of non-attachment. If Tatiana would be happier with someone else, then who am I to stop her?

Yes, it would hurt me and I would be sad. However, I would never want to sacrifice her happiness if it meant that she would be settling with me. That is the true definition of higher consciousness love.

If you are jealous, I encourage you to go inward and ask yourself if you have yet to deal with emotional pain from your past relationships. Or maybe your partner broke your trust in some way. If this is the case, both of you have to decide if you are willing to do the work to rebuild that trust together. 

This is how to stop being jealous in a relationship.

It's okay to feel jealous, but don't allow it to sabotage the love that you share with your partner. If you are prone to experiencing intense jealousy, the best thing that you can do is openly communicate your insecurities to your partner in a calm and loving way.

More importantly, commit to getting to the core of where your jealousy comes from and do the work to eliminate destructive emotional reactions altogether. If you can do this, your relationship will flourish. Even better, you will feel more secure in yourself. There is no greater gift that you can give to yourself.

Are you ready to overcome jealousy once and for all?

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My wife cheated on me… should I stay or leave?

This is a question that one of the members in my Life Mastery Accelerator program recently asked me. First and foremost, my heart goes out to this person.

Nobody ever wants to be in a situation like this with their partner. Restoring relationship trust after you've been betrayed is a difficult process.

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Great relationships don't magically happen.

They take a lot of hard work on the part of both individuals. How do you know if you’re working too hard on a relationship? If you're spending more time tending to the relationship and keeping it afloat than enjoying it. That's when you know you've got a problem.

When it comes to marriage, it takes even more work because there is a bigger level of commitment. Some married couples appear to be super happy on the outside, but behind closed doors, there may be issues that aren't being addressed.

When people are unhappy, sometimes they do things out of desperation, infidelity being one of them. This is one of the many reasons why the divorce rate is so prevalent among couples. Unfortunately, infidelity and divorce go hand in hand.

While some statistics are conflicting when it comes to how many divorces occur because of cheating, some list the number as high as 50 percent.

Why do people feel the need to cheat in the first place? More importantly, how do married couples survive infidelity and become stronger as a result? I don't have the answers for everything, but I can shed light on why I believe partner's cheat.

In this blog post, I would like to personally address my response to this person.

You first need to identify how your relationship got to the point where your partner felt the need to cheat on you. This is an important process to go through if you want to get to the root of the problem. You need to ask yourself, “What is happening with my wife that would have caused her to react in this way in the first place?”

Secondly, you need to take a good look at yourself. At the end of the day, you are still responsible for everything that happens in your life. I'm not justifying that what your wife did was right. However, it's important that you reflect upon what you could have done differently. Could you have better served her needs and how?

This is why I think it's so important to create a relationship journal with your partner. Yes, it is possible for you and your partner to journal your way to a healthier and stronger relationship, one that is based on trust, unconditional love, and respect.

My fiancée, Tatiana and I have a relationship journal which we use on a bi-weekly basis. We check-in with each other and make sure that each of our needs is being met. If they aren't, we take action to change that. As a result, our relationship continues to grow and get stronger every day. In my opinion, if a relationship isn't growing, it's dying.

If you truly love this woman, I would first try to focus on rebuilding your relationship with her. Ask her if she is committed to being in the marriage moving forward. You need to ask yourself the same thing. Do you want to make this marriage work?

More importantly, you need to ask her if she is open to making some changes in her own life. The reality is that she broke trust. She has to acknowledge that and take responsibility for it. I encourage you to get some relationship counseling, learn how you can better meet each other's needs, and commit to starting over.

This will require that you forgive her and love her unconditionally.

Will this be easy? No, but if you love her it will be worth it. Punishing her for what happened will only make everything worse.

In terms of your children, it's important to understand that you and your wife are the foundation of your family unit. If it is weak, your children will suffer as well. While your children may not listen to what you say, they will definitely model what you do.

If you are sacrificing your happiness for the sake of your children, you're doing everyone in the family a disservice. My Mom stayed in an unhappy marriage with my Dad for years.

Guess what? She was depressed for years and my siblings and I felt the brunt of it. She gave up her happiness and essentially, her life, for us. I never wanted that for her. I would have rather my parents split up instead of being miserable together.

My wife cheated on me… should I stay or leave?

Only the person who asked me this question knows what the best decision is. However, I hope I have offered some helpful insights on how best to move forward. I believe that love is worth fighting for, but not if you're the only one fighting.

At the end of the day, true love is a choice. Healthy relationships that stand the test of time take effort and commitment on the part of both individuals. Conflicts are unavoidable in any relationship. However, if you and your partner practice open and honest communication, I believe that there isn't anything that you can't get through.

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Do you want to know how to create more love and deeper communication in your relationship?

A relationship is all about giving unconditional love to your partner.

Healthy couples make time to check-in with each other on a regular basis in order to make sure that their needs are being met.

If you want to grow and experience more depth, passion, and connection with your partner, you need to make love and deeper communication in your relationship a top priority.

If you or your partner have yet to read the book, The Five Love Languages, make sure that you do.

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In the book, the author delineates the five ways that people speak and understand emotional love. Everyone has their own love language; something that makes them feel loved and appreciated. When you understand the love language that matters the most to your partner, it helps you understand how to create more love and deeper communication in your relationship.

The five love languages are:

Words of affirmation – this involves compliments or words of appreciation

Quality time – this involves giving your partner your undivided attention

Receiving gifts – this involves visible symbols of love

Acts of service – this involves doing things that you know your partner would love, whether that’s cooking a meal, cleaning the house, etc.

Physical touch – this involves showing emotional love for your partner

Tatiana and I check-in on a bi-weekly basis and ask each other if our love languages are being served, and if not, why, and how we can meet each other's needs better. It's all about serving your partner and having the awareness to pay attention to what he/she needs. Find out what the top two love languages are for your partner so that you can anticipate their needs in advance.

As a man, I need to listen to Tatiana and understand her view of the world. It doesn’t matter what I think. It's all about what she needs. The same goes for Tatiana. Open and honest communication is the foundation of every relationship. Unsurprisingly, studies show that conflicts about money and poor communication lead to unhappy couples more than anything else.

In the words of Tony Gaskins, “Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life. Without it, it dies.” If you can’t communicate, you won’t be able to express how you feel, which is a recipe for relationship disaster. There is an exercise that Tatiana and I learned in a tantra workshop, facilitated by our friends, Satyen and Suzanne Raja, that allows you to experience a deeper level of communication in your relationship.

This exercise is referred to as ‘dyads’ – a process whereby each partner asks each other a question. It’s an opportunity for each partner to communicate whatever it is that comes up for them in the moment. Your job is to listen, understand, and say thank you, with zero judgment.

Some examples of questions may be:

What is something that you like about me? 

What is something that you think we agree upon?

Tell me something about yourself that you want me to understand?

During this exercise it is important that you give your partner your undivided attention.  Don't argue, blame, or judge what they say. Creating a communication ritual in your relationship is a powerful way to create an honest and open connection with your partner, based on understanding, trust, and respect.

Valuing and honoring your partner involves making the effort to learn how to create more love and deeper communication in your relationship. Think about how you and your partner can best serve one another so that you can both reach your fullest potential, as partners and as human beings.

Life is a journey and it is love that makes the journey worthwhile.

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My girlfriend Tatiana and I want to talk about how to create an amazing relationship that lasts.

I have been blessed to have achieved a high level of success in my life thus far.

I’ve built a thriving business, I’ve traveled the world, and I’ve met amazing people that have inspired me to grow, both personally and professionally.

However, none of those experiences compare to the joy that I feel being with the woman that I love. 

If you want to create an amazing relationship that lasts, you have to invest time and energy into it.

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Tatiana and I have built a strong relationship, but we are both committed to working at it every day so that we are growing in the same direction. We are a team.  We understand and respect each other’s needs and values, and make each other a priority. Yes, great relationships take work. Staying in great shape takes work, and building an online business takes work, so why shouldn’t a relationship take work as well?

I cannot stress enough how important it is to be aligned with your partner, in terms of your goals, visions, and values. From the beginning, Tatiana and I made sure that our values were in alignment. If we didn’t agree on something, we talked about it and came to a mutual agreement.

The best way to maintain a lasting, long-term relationship with someone is to create a shared vision. At the beginning of our relationship, Tatiana and I took the time to create a vision together. Doing so allowed us to make sure that we were moving in the same direction. If we are ever feeling uncertain about something, we reflect back on what we wrote. Communication is key to a successful partnership.

Not only do we have a shared vision for our relationship, but we also have separate visions, for our health, our businesses, etc., and we support each other in those visions. It’s so important to find someone that is in your corner.

Remember: This is Part 2 of our four-part series on Relationship Mastery. Click Here to check out Part 1.

You also need to make sure that your values are in alignment. For Tatiana and I, we are both passionate about the same things, which is great, because we are constantly growing as people and as a couple. That being said, you don’t want to be aligned on everything with your partner because that helps create some passion and excitement between the two of you.

Tatiana and I have a relationship journal, which we use on a bi-weekly basis to check-in with each other. As part of this exercise, we go through the 6 human needs, as expressed by Tony Robbins, and list on a scale of 1-10 where our needs are being met:

• Certainty – the need for safety, security, and stability
• Variety – the need for surprise and excitement
• Significance – the need to have meaning
• Love – the need to feel connected with, intimate, and loved by another
• Growth – the need for constant spiritual, emotional, and intellectual development
• Contribution – the need to give beyond ourselves

When you are hitting anywhere between a 7-10 on each need, that is when you know that your relationship is alive and healthy. This exercise allows us to express where our needs are being met, and where we can do better as a couple. Love is about growing together. On a daily basis, ask yourself, “What can I do to serve my partner more?

By committing and supporting one another, Tatiana and I have learned how to create an amazing relationship that lasts. Life is meant to spent with the person that you love. If you have found your person, do the work to support and value their needs so that your love continues to grow and expand into the future. If you are still looking for love, have faith that your special person is out there, waiting for you.

In the mean time, focus on being the best version of yourself.  Love who you are so that you can attract the love that you desire. Please leave a comment below or let me know any questions you have.  I’d love to hear what you think!

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