Let's talk about sex, passion, & enlightenment.

This is Part 2 of our best relationship advice series where Tatiana and I answer your questions.

In Part 1, we talked about how to keep things exciting in a long-term relationship, how to find your perfect soulmate, and how to deal with arguments.

In this blog, we dive into some juicier topics and we don't hold back with our answers.

If you have the desire to rekindle the passion and intimacy in your relationship, read this!

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To love and be loved in return is the ultimate gift.

The test of a life well-lived has nothing to do with money and everything to do with love. One of the sole purposes of a relationship is to amplify human emotion. Whenever I've achieved big successes in my life or business, guess who I've wanted to share it with?

Tatiana!

She is the love of my life. When great things happen I want to share them with her. Being in an intimate relationship is one of the most powerful ways to grow spiritually. The experiences that Tatiana and I have shared are greater than anything else we've achieved in our lives, combined.

By no means do we have a perfect relationship. However, we've learned a lot of relationship principles over the last 7 years that we've been together. These principles have helped us create a healthy and long-lasting relationship, based on love, passion, and intimacy.

Whether you're already in a committed relationship or are still looking for love, the relationship advice that we share with you today will add value to your life. Let's dive in!

How do you improve your sex life after being together for 7 years?

First, it's important to understand the dynamics of masculine and feminine energy. What creates passion and spark in a relationship is sexual polarity. Both men and women can have masculine and feminine energy. However, each of us has a certain nature. My nature is more masculine, whereas other men's nature is more feminine.

Knowing what nature you connect with most is very important.

If you want to have passion and attraction in a relationship you need to create polarity. Opposing masculine and feminine energies, when they are truly embraced in a relationship, are what create that “spark” of sexual energy.

When it comes to our sex life, we use these energies when it's appropriate. In business, I know that I need to bring out my masculine energy. However, when it comes to our relationship, we want to make sure that we have polarity.

Tatiana's nature is to be in her feminine, so she likes to do specific things that allow her to connect with her feminine energy. When she's in her feminine, I'm drawn to her and I want to claim her. In turn, she has the desire to surrender and be claimed by me. If you're in a relationship that is missing intimacy and passion it is usually because there is depolarization.

In this day and age, a lot of women find it challenging to embrace their feminine energy. Why? Because masculine energy tends to be rewarded more in business. As an example, Tatiana is an entrepreneur who spends the majority of her day using her masculine energy.

After a long day, it can be hard for her to transition back into her feminine energy with me. This is when polarity suffers. To counteract this, Tatiana takes some solo time for herself after work. This allows her to make the transition from her masculine to her feminine energy. This may look like taking a hot shower to cleanse away the day, doing her makeup, or spending some time dancing.

It will look different for everyone.

There are certain things that you can do in your relationship that will help to elicit feminine or masculine energy in your partner. One simple practice that Tatiana and I like to engage in is eye gazing. We will sit facing each other with our hands on one another's hearts.

Sometimes we will match and mirror our breathing so that we experience synchronicity. When we do this, we can literally feel what one another is feeling. Eye gazing is a powerful practice for creating a presence with your partner and connecting with him/her on a deeper level.

When I'm looking at her I'm giving her my undivided attention. I want her to feel all of my love. In turn, she feels my presence and my energy through my gaze. The feminine is like a flower. When a woman feels a man's presence, she blossoms and dissolves into her feminine energy.

When it comes to having sex with your partner, it's important to understand that there is light and dark energy. Sometimes people will only allow themselves to bring out one type of energy. When this happens, there's a part of your and your relationship that doesn't get to be experienced.

Tatiana and I make it a priority to explore dark and light energy in the bedroom. You have to read your partner's body language and respond to what he or she is asking for sexually.

We highly recommend that you read the book Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships by Marnia Robinson. She studied all of the different philosophies and religions related to relationships. In her book, she shares a spiritual sexual practice called The Karezza Method.

This is a way of making love to your partner that is very slow and sensual.

When you make love with this practice, the goal isn't to have an orgasm or to ejaculate. Rather, the goal is to deepen the sexual and emotional connection with your partner through sensual touch.

Another great book is called The Multi-Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia, which teaches you how to have orgasms without ejaculating by challenging the energy through your chakras. Tatiana and I go several months at a time without orgasming or ejaculating and we've noticed so many benefits in our relationship from doing so.

Do you get jealous if Tatiana makes more money than you, and vice versa? 

Absolutely not. We are on the same team. I want Tatiana to fulfill her potential and achieve whatever goals she desires. We don't have fear around that. I don't define my happiness, identity, or self-worth based on how much money she or I make.

If you want to learn more about Tatiana and the work that she does, I highly recommend that you subscribe to her YouTube channel and follow her on Instagram.

Over the last few years, we've done well financially to the point that we never have to work again. However, there was a time in both of our lives when becoming financially free was important. Unfortunately, that mentality made us feel that we never had enough money.

Lately, we've been working on giving up a lot of the attachment that we once had to money. Today, our mental and emotional health, spirituality, family, and relationship are our top priorities.

This is our best relationship advice on sex, passion & enlightenment.

Everyone wants and deserves to experience connection, passion, and intimacy with their partner. We hope our advice inspires you to reignite passion in your relationship or helps you to get clear on what qualities are important to you in a partner.

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Tatiana and I want to give you our BEST relationship advice.

A successful relationship doesn't happen overnight. It takes commitment, patience, and the willingness to grow, together and alone.

Recently Tatiana and I asked our YouTube subscribers and Instagram followers for their top relationship questions.

Inside this blog, we answer those questions, based on our experience of being together for 7+ years.

Keep reading to discover our best advice for building a healthy, happy, and long-lasting relationship!

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Great relationships take hard work.

My love for Tatiana continues to grow in the most beautiful of ways because we take the time to invest in our relationship. Below Tatiana and I share our answers to some of your questions about love and relationships.

We hope that these relationship tips help you to understand yourself and your partner on a deeper level. If you want to learn more about Tatiana and the work that she does, I highly recommend that you subscribe to her YouTube channel and follow her on Instagram.

On that note, let's dive into the questions!

How do you keep things exciting in a long-term relationship?

Just like any other aspect of your life, you have to constantly focus on your relationship. One thing that has helped Tatiana and me is the 6 human needs framework that we learned from Tony Robbins.

Tony believes that the following 6 needs drive all human behavior – certainty, uncertainty/variety, significance, connection/love, growth, and contribution. If you're focused on fulfilling and meeting your partner's needs at a high level, you're going to have an incredible relationship.

When a relationship is lacking passion and intimacy oftentimes it means that there are needs that aren't being fulfilled by one or both partners. What we love about Tony's framework is that it's an easy way to measure where you're at in your relationship.

In particular, which needs are being fulfilled and which ones aren't being fulfilled.

Tatiana and I engage in a weekly relationship ritual where we go through the 6 human needs and list on a scale of 1-10 where our needs are being met. If either of us scores below a 7 on any of the 6 human needs, we talk about how we can get that number to a level 10.

This ritual will do wonders for your relationship. It gives you an opportunity to connect with your partner on a deeper level and work ON your relationship, instead of IN it.

There are 3 levels to a relationship. The first level is all about you. This is a selfish way of relating.

The second level is when you're giving love to receive love. It's merely an exchange.

The third level is when you are striving to meet your partner's needs above your own. By contributing beyond yourself, your partner will reciprocate. As a result, both of you will get your needs met in the relationship.

A lot of couples fall into the trap of giving what they think their partner needs. Oftentimes, it's not what their partner is asking for. It's important to understand that your partner may feel and/or express each of the 6 human needs in a different way from you.

Each person feels love in a different way. This is why it's important to understand what your love language is, and what the love language of your partner is. If you have yet to read the book The 5 Love Languages, we highly recommend that you do.

The 5 love languages include acts of service, quality time, words of affirmation, physical touch, and receiving gifts.

As part of our relationship ritual, Tatiana and I also ask one another the following questions:

• How can I better meet your needs?
• What is great about our relationship?
• How can I better meet your love language?
• What do you appreciate about me? 
• How can we create more love and passion in our relationship? 

We also take some time to share the magic moments that we experienced throughout the week together. By reliving those memories, we are acknowledging what is working well in our relationship.

Make it your goal to figure out how you can meet and fulfill your partner's needs at the highest level. If you can do that, you'll have an amazing relationship filled with passion and excitement. Keep in mind this relationship ritual requires allocating time and attention to your relationship, in the same way that you do for your business, health, or hobbies.

In the beginning stages of dating someone, it's easy to put in the effort. Everything is new and exciting. However, in long-term relationships, people tend to get complacent. They stop making an effort to meet the needs of their partner because they feel ‘secure.'

Unfortunately, this way of thinking and behaving can lead to resentment.

From our experience, if you do what you did at the beginning of your relationship, there will never be an end.

Apart from meeting your partner's needs, it is imperative that you meet your own needs as well. Make it a priority to spend time alone. Nourish your mind, body, and spirit so that you can be at your best. This is what will allow you to be at your best in your relationship.

How can I find my soulmate?

In my early 20s, I was a dating coach. I helped men improve their confidence and social skills. The reason why I started this business is that I was extremely shy and had a hard time talking to women. That was a huge pain point in my life.

I took the time to learn about relationships and find ways to improve myself so that I could attract the woman that I desired. The first step to attracting your soulmate is getting clarity on what YOU want in a partner. If you don't know what you want, you won't know if it passes you by.

When I went through this self-reflection process, I was very specific about the type of partner I wanted to attract into my life.

I thought about what I wanted my ideal partner's physical appearance to look like, to her character traits and favorite hobbies. From the list that I created, I identified my non-negotiables.

Once you get clarity on the type of partner that you want, ask yourself the question, “Who do I need to become to attract this person into my life?” You attract what you are. Determine what the best possible version of yourself looks like and then do the inner work to become that person.

How do you deal with arguments?

Arguments ensue between couples when they are in their ego. At the end of the day, your ego is just fear. It's trying to preserve your identity and the beliefs that you have. Your ego says, “I'm right and you're wrong.”

To become a more conscious person, you have to be willing to let go of your attachment to being right. You have to be willing to look at your partner's perspective. As Stephen Covey said, “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.”

There are times when Tatiana and I disagree or get annoyed with one another. However, we never allow our standards to drop to the point where we disrespect each other. We both came from families where our parents fought with one another a lot. We made a pact that we never wanted to be in a relationship like that.

Respect is key in a relationship.

When you argue with your partner it is more of a reflection of what is going on inside of you. It's your responsibility to understand what the root of your emotional triggers are and do the work to heal them.

Whenever you're arguing with your partner ask yourself, “Do I want to be right, or do I want to be in love?” Ultimately, there's a lot of things that Tatiana and I let go of because our goal is to choose the higher path, which is love.

This is our BEST relationship advice.

Falling in love is easy, but staying in love takes commitment and work. If you put our advice into practice, your relationship has the power to grow in ways that you never thought were possible.

Choose one another. Choose love. Life is hard enough.

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Do you want to learn how to build confidence so that you can attract the woman of your dreams?

I believe that confidence is one of the most attractive qualities that someone can have. Research has confirmed that men and women rate confidence as a very attractive trait in a potential partner. Confident men are comfortable in their masculinity. They know who they are and they own it.

They don't have to be loud in order to be noticed by women because their presence takes over the room, just by being themselves. In short, confidence is sexy. If confidence is such an attractive trait to a woman, then why do so many men struggle with it?

I'm here to tell you why and how you can build the confidence that women desire. A wise person once said, “Self-confidence is the most attractive quality a person can have. How can anyone see how great you are if you can't see it yourself?”

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If you are reading this, I'm assuming that you want to learn how to build confidence with women.

As men, we all want to be confident with women, but not all of us are. What a lot of people fail to realize is that confidence is a trait that is developed. No one is born with confidence.

The dating world is really complex and it puts a lot of pressure on men to show up and be the prince charming that every woman is looking for. Men are fed a lot of strategies on how to pick up women, but oftentimes these strategies turn out to be tricks and gimmicks that are far from authentic.

They may work in the short-term and get you a few dates, here and there. However, this is not the way that you will attract a partner into your life and create a long-lasting relationship. A lot of men are only left feeling burnt out and tired of the dating game. They may get rejected so many times that they think, “What is the point? I'll never find anyone.” This mindset only serves to lower their self-esteem even further.

R. Don Steele, the author of the book, Body Language Secrets: A Guide during Courtship and Dating says that the desire is evolutionary and that females want someone who’s not going to run from a fight, a man who is confident in his ability to provide and protect.” 

Some men think that they need to fork out a cheesy pick-up line or interrupt a woman's conversation so that they will be ‘noticed' for their efforts. These advances only make women feel uncomfortable, annoyed, and at times, insulted.

Lacking confidence is a horrible feeling.

When you are around an attractive woman, do you feel nervous, anxious or intimidated? So much so that you stumble over your words and end up running the other way for fear that a woman is going to see through your insecurities?

I can relate to this because I used to struggle with low self-confidence for many years. When I was younger I was extremely shy and introverted. Let's just say that meeting women was not my forte. I tried everything and anything to get a girlfriend, but women just wouldn't give me the time of day.

If I did manage to meet an attractive woman, I would be too nervous to even talk to her, which would turn her off altogether. I was a sensitive and caring guy. I didn't understand. Isn't that what women love in a man?

But I was missing that golden trait known as, confidence.

I started to realize that this wasn't just a problem that I was dealing with. Other men that I knew were struggling to meet and attract women as well. At 21 years old, I decided to build Lifestyle Transformations, a dating coaching business for men. I hosted dozens of seminars and events and coached thousands of men on how to build confidence and attract women into their life.

From personal experience and my work with other men, I've found that the #1 reason why men lack confidence when it comes to women is fear of failure. Fear stops men from being the man that a woman needs and desires.

So, where does this fear come from?

We live in a culture where masculinity is associated with toughness and aggressiveness. As a result, being a sensitive and caring man can be frowned upon or seen as “weak.” What do you think this does to a man's self-esteem? It can definitely lead them to believe that they aren't manly enough.

According to research, there are 11 masculine norms that embody what it means to be a man: winning, emotional control, risk-taking, violence, power over women, dominance, playboy lifestyle, self-reliance, the primacy of work, disdain for homosexuals, and the pursuit of status. However, what about the men that are quiet, sensitive and introverted? They matter too.

Just because they don't fit into one of the above personality types, doesn't mean that they aren't a real man.

When I was younger, I spent a lot of time with my Mom and sister. As a result, I took on more feminine traits, like sensitivity, empathy, and vulnerability. Unfortunately, this meant that I was missing the masculine energy that so many women are drawn to. My Dad and I didn't have a strong relationship when I was growing up. In a lot of ways, I feared him, so I tended to veer away from stereotypical masculine activities.

After a lot of rejection from women, I started to notice that something needed to change. I began engaging in activities like martial arts, which allowed me to embrace my inner masculine. When I did, my physical appearance started to change, my confidence boosted and not surprisingly, I became more attractive to women.

The fact of the matter is that a woman likes a man that can take charge and that isn't afraid to say how they feel.

David Klow, a Chicago based Psychotherapist states that “women like direct men the same way a salsa dancer likes a good lead. When there are clarity and direction, she feels relaxed. If she can’t trust his movements, they step on one another’s toes. If he is direct and clear in his leadership, however, everyone wins.”

Confidence doesn't magically happen overnight. You've got to do the work to be attractive to women, every single day. Confidence is a mindset.

Let's explore 4 things that you can do in order to build your confidence and attract the woman of your dreams.

1. Take Care Of Your Body 

Let's face it… women love a man that takes care of his body. This is one of the most effective ways to build self-confidence. When you look great, you feel great, and that package can be extremely attractive to the opposite sex. More importantly, exercise supports mental well-being.

In this study, men with the highest levels of physical activity, cardio fitness, and muscular strength experienced less stress than those who notched lower levels. They also scored higher on tests of “mental resources”—how energetic, capable, and confident they felt about their daily tasks.

I'm not saying that you need to look like Hercules, but physical attraction does matter when it comes to first impressions. Pay attention to your appearance, in a way that builds your self-esteem. Hit the gym, lift some weights and watch your confidence skyrocket when you start getting the attention from women that you have been seeking.

2. Dress For Success

You only have one opportunity to make a great first impression. Have you ever thought about the message that your clothes give off to other women? What you wear says a lot about who you are and what matters or doesn't matter to you. Women pick up on this kind of stuff.

In her book, You Are What You Wear: What Your Clothes Reveal About You, clinical psychologist Dr. Jennifer Baumgartner talks about a phenomenon she calls the “psychology of dress.” She explains not only how psychology determines our clothing choices, but how to overcome key psychological issues your wardrobe might be bringing to light in your everyday life.

If you want to attract a woman at a bar, would you wear ratty jeans and a wrinkled shirt? No. You would dress for success! You don't have to go all out in order to look good. Find a style that represents who you are and pick clothes that convey the message that you want to send to women.

This is a great way to start building your confidence and feeling comfortable in your own skin.

3. Work On Your Verbal & Non-Verbal Communication

When it comes to dating and attracting a woman, communication is key. This is where a lot of men get stuck. If you lack self-confidence, your body language is going to show it.

Men that are shy and nervous tend to make themselves appear smaller by looking down, crossing their arms, and curling their shoulders inwards. Not only is this behavior not attractive to women, but it also sends the message, “I'm closed off and don't want to talk to you.”

Your posture affects the way that you feel. Work on standing tall, with your shoulders back and your head, held high. You will immediately feel more confident by doing something as simple as changing your posture.

When it comes to communicating with a woman, keep steady eye contact with her and actively listen to what she has to say. Ask her questions about herself and don't try to overtake the conversation. Compliment her on her sense of humor or intelligence. The focus is on being genuine and authentic.

A woman can smell cheese from a mile away. However, if she feels that you are being sincere, you will be acknowledged for it.

4. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

This is how to build confidence and attract the woman of your dreams.

The woman of your dream is out there, waiting for you. However, she's not going to magically show up at your doorstep. You need to do the work in order to be attractive to her, so do it. In the words of Larry Winget, “Be confident. There is no one who is not attracted to confidence. Women dig it. Men love it. Confidence adds hair, drops ten pounds, and takes off ten years.” If that doesn't motivate you, I don't know what will!

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Are you ready to learn 3 ways to develop quiet confidence? CLICK HERE to read the article that I wrote on Medium!