Do you truly know how to love yourself unconditionally? 

Love is the greatest force in the Universe. It is what we all yearn for. However, a lot of people find it easier to love others than to love themselves.

Being in a relationship and sharing your life with someone that you love is a beautiful feeling.

However, your relationship with yourself will always be the most important relationship of your life.

In the words of R.H. Sin, “Sometimes your soulmate is yourself. You have to be the love of your life until you discover that kind of love in someone else.”

If you're ready to cultivate a deep appreciation for all aspects of yourself, keep reading…

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What did your parents teach you about love? 

Your parent(s) and/or caretaker was the first relationship that you ever had. It set the tone for everything that you experienced in life.

Self-love is the greatest gift that parents can give their children. Ultimately, the goal of every parent should be giving children the means to know, learn and experience success and happiness. Self-love is at the root of those traits.

However, when one or both parents do not value self-love or neglect their children in some way, a child learns that love isn't safe. Even worse, a child may create the belief that he or she is not worthy of love.

Lack of parental involvement in childhood can negatively affect a child's self-esteem and create a breeding ground for an unstable self-concept in adulthood. Oftentimes, this is why adults become people-pleasers and spend their lives doing things to gain approval or validation from others.

Recently I was coaching someone who struggles with self-love. They feel as if they aren't worthy or deserving of anything. As a result, they don't feel like they can fully receive love. I want you to take a moment and reflect upon a person in your life that you love unconditionally.

What would you do for that person? Probably anything, right?

Now, I want you to think about how often you show up for yourself in the same way that you show up for this person you love. The best way to truly love yourself is to value the relationship that you have with yourself above all else. Research shows self-acceptance is the key to a happier life, but it’s also the habit many people practice the least.

I believe that everyone should have a self-love ritual that they practice daily.

If you don't love yourself, you won't have any love to give to others. If you don't take the time to fill your cup up, it is impossible to show up for others. This is a recipe for feeling drained and undervalued.

Alternatively, when you fully embrace all aspects of yourself, your relationships with others deepen and are rooted in mutual love, understanding, and respect.

Eckhart Tolle believes that each person has two parts – a human and a being. Thus, we are human beings. Your conditioning, comprised of your personality, beliefs, and values belongs to the human dimension. Your being is your heart and soul; it is consciousness.

In the words of Eckhart, “Human is form. Being is formless. Human and Being are not separate but interwoven.”

It's useful to be able to separate the two. For example, you can feel guilty and have shame around some of your behaviors, but please understand that you are NOT your behavior. Your behavior doesn't define you. If you want to deepen your sense of self-love, I encourage you to start connecting with your being side.

It's all about learning how to be in the present moment with yourself, whether that's meditating, praying, journaling, reciting affirmations, or doing mirror work. If you have never done mirror work, I highly recommend reading Louise Hay's book, Mirror Work: 21 Days To Heal Your Life.

In her book, Louise talks about her Mirror Principle, which holds that our experience of life mirrors our relationship with ourselves; unless we see ourselves as loveable, the world can be a dark and lonely place. When you engage in self-love rituals, over time your self-esteem increases and you live a more joyous and fulfilling life.

This is how to love yourself unconditionally. 

You are worthy of love and belonging. You wouldn't exist on this planet if you didn't. Make it a habit to show yourself love every single day. Be in awe of your existence because you are a gift to this world simply by being you. 

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There are 7 keys that you MUST know if you want to have a successful relationship.

Happy Valentines Day, everyone! Today is a day to celebrate love. To love and be loved is a beautiful thing.

Tatiana and I want to share with you the principles that have helped us build and maintain the ultimate relationship.

Whether you're looking to create more intimacy in your current relationship, or you're single and are ready to attract a partner into your life, these principles will be of value to you.

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A successful relationship doesn't happen overnight.

All relationships go through ups and downs. It's natural to not think of relationships as something that you need to develop skills for, but you do. It takes patience, work, and commitment to building a strong relationship that will stand the test of time.

A lot of couples fall into the trap of getting too comfortable with one another, to the point that they get complacent. In short, they take their partner for granted and stop making their relationship a priority.

Staying healthy takes work. Raising kids takes work. Building a business takes work. Why shouldn't having a great relationship take work too? Year after year, Tatiana and I have made it a priority to give our relationship the love and care that it deserves. As a result, we've been able to continually grow, both as individuals and as a couple.

Here are some tips that will help you build a successful relationship, whether you're currently in a relationship or you're single.

Tip #1 – Know Your Attachment Style 

Do you know what your attachment style is, and what your partner's style is? If you haven't already, we encourage you to read the book Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love. Your attachment style will help you understand and explain your behavior in an intimate relationship.

Attachment theory suggests that there are three main types of attachment. Attachment styles first develop in childhood. The nature of our attachment to one or both of our parents influences the nature of our attachment to our romantic partners in adulthood.

1. Secure Attachment Style

A person who has a secure attachment style has an advantage in relationships. They are secure within themselves. Thus, they are very independent and don't feel like they need their partner to feel a sense of wholeness. They also tend to be able to effectively communicate their emotions to their partner openly and honestly.

2. Anxious Attachment Style

A person who has an anxious attachment style is more insecure and needy in a relationship. Therefore, they tend to require constant reassurance from their partner that they are loved and wanted. Their struggles can be rooted in the fear of being rejected or abandoned by their partner. Thus, the feeling of being alone or single makes them very uncomfortable.

3. Avoidant Attachment Style

A person who has an avoidant attachment style has a harder time being in relationships. They love their independence and freedom. Being in a relationship can feel like they've lost their sense of self. Thus, they may have a lot of partners but never be able to settle down with one person. Moreover, they may struggle to experience deep intimacy because they prefer to love at a distance, for fear that they will be too suffocated.

Which attachment style do you gravitate towards?

The great news is that an attachment style can change over time. If you have an anxious or avoidant attachment style, strive to move your attachment style towards one that is more secure. When both partners are secure, a relationship flourishes.

Tip #2 – Create A Compelling Relationship Vision 

Oftentimes, people enter into relationships with their own values, dreams, and desires. However, they don't communicate those truths with their partner. If your partner doesn't share the same vision as you, you're bound to experience challenges down the road.

This is why Tatiana and I believe in creating a relationship vision. Think of a relationship vision as a roadmap for what you want your relationship journey to look like. A shared vision allows you and your partner to focus your energy on creating a life together.

If you're in a relationship, I recommend that you and your partner take some time separately to reflect upon what your vision is for the relationship. What do you want from your relationship? How do you want to show up in your relationship? What kind of partner do you want to have?

Once you've gone through this process, express to your partner what came up for you, and build a shared vision together. If you're single, get clarity on what your needs and wants are. What are your “musts” in a partner? Equally, make sure that you're showing up for yourself and being the kind of partner that you want to be.

Tip #3 – Understand Love Languages

A love language reflects how you feel and interpret love. Everyone has a love language. In his book, The Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman states that there are five love languages, which include the following:

1. Gifts – giving flowers, a love note, or a box of chocolates.

2. Acts of service – doing things for your partner, like emptying the dishwasher, making dinner, or giving a massage.

3. Words of affirmation – saying loving and encouraging things to your partner.

4. Physical touch – touching your partner, in the form of hand-holding, intimacy, or cuddling.

5. Quality time – spending quality time with your partner.

What is your primary love language? What is your partner's love language is? Keep in mind that we all give and receive love in our own ways. A relationship is not a place that you go to get. Rather, it's a place that you go to give.

Be willing to tell your partner what makes you feel loved, and be willing to give your partner the love that they need. This is how you will be able to create more love and intimacy in your relationship.

In the words of Tony Robbins – “Trade your expectation for appreciation.” When you and your partner appreciate, love, and accept every aspect of one another, you can transcend your love to another level.

Tip #4 – Become Who You Want To Attract

Once you get clarity on what you want in a partner and a relationship, you have to do the inner work to attract that which you want. For example, if you want to create more love and passion in your relationship, you have to become more loving and passionate.

If something is important to you, but you fail to embody it yourself, naturally you will hope that it is given to you by someone else. For those of you who are single, ask yourself – are you the kind of person with whom your ideal partner would fall in love with?

If your answer is no, then commit to doing the work to become that person before you start dating. Similarly, if you're in a relationship, ask yourself if you're still growing with your partner, or if you've become too complacent in the relationship.

When you strive to become the best version of yourself, you will attract someone who is also the best version of themselves. That is a recipe for healthy love.

These are 4 keys for building a successful relationship, but there are more!

I encourage you to head on over to Tatiana's YouTube channel to learn about the last 3 keys. Valentine's Day is about love in all its forms.

Today, and every day thereafter, give love to people whom you care about, whether that's a partner, a friend, or a pet! More importantly, give love for yourself. At the end of the day, this is the most important relationship that you will ever have.

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Do you want to create the ultimate relationship with your partner?

Love is a choice. My fiancée, Tatiana and I have committed to deepening our love and passion for one another every day.

A great relationship requires hard work. If you want the connection with your partner to remain strong, you can't get lazy with one another.

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I am blessed to have the ultimate relationship.

However, Tatiana and I didn't magically get to where we are today in our relationship by accident. We have made it a priority to give our relationship the attention that it deserves. Doing so ensures that we continue to grow together in the same direction.

When you first meet someone, you experience what is called, the honeymoon phase. Everything is new and exciting. There's a lot of passion and aliveness between you and your partner. Studies have found that this part of the relationship is on par with the same feeling that cocaine gives you, proving that love and cocaine affect the brain in similar ways.

When the honeymoon phase dies a lot of couples get too comfortable with one another, to the point where they get complacent. If you want to have a strong and long-lasting relationship, you and your partner have to make your relationship a priority. The moment you stop is the moment that your relationship starts to suffer.

I don't ever want to take Tatiana for granted. This is why we commit to engaging in specific love rituals and principles that allow us to grow and improve ourselves and our relationship. Let's talk about 3 ways that you can create more love and passion with your partner.

1. Create a shared vision and values 

If you want to have the ultimate relationship, you have to be in alignment with your partner. A lot of relationships suffer because they lose their shared vision. As a result, they don't end up creating a compelling future with one another. If there is a misalignment in values between you and your partner, there will be challenges in your relationship.

On our very first date, Tatiana and I talked about our values and the vision that we had for our lives. Instantly we knew that we were going in the same direction. If you want to have a successful relationship, you and your partner must co-create a shared vision that is comprised of your dreams, values, and needs.

In the beginning stages of dating one another, Tatiana and I created a relationship journal where we wrote out the vision that we had for our relationship. As the years have gone by, our shared vision has changed. The relationship vision that Tatiana and I had five years ago is very different now. Today, we are looking forward to creating a family and we have a clear vision about what that is going to look like.

With regards to values, you always want to be checking in with your partner and asking what is important to him/her in the relationship. More importantly, you need to make sure that you and your partner's values are in alignment with one another.

2. Love your partner unconditionally

I view love as fully accepting your partner for who they are without trying to change them. When you love someone on that level, you give them space to truly embody who they are. This level of unconditional love opens up the doors for vulnerability in your relationship.

If you've been hurt in past relationships it can be difficult to show vulnerability because trust was broken with a previous partner or partners. I get it. However, if you want to experience true love, you have to be willing to let go of the past. The past does not dictate your future.

Yes, it can be scary to open your heart again, but when you get to a place of surrendering, that is the moment when unconditional love can enter into your relationship. In the words of Jenna Birch, author of The Love Gap, “Unconditional love is a love that has no limits… there is no score sheet or checklist. It doesn't ebb and flow. It's loving someone in spite of the ups and downs.”

3. Create and ignite passion in your relationship

A lot of couples have a strong love for one another but they end up losing the passion and chemistry that they once had in their relationship. Fortunately, attraction and passion can be reignited. The secret to doing this lies in the polarity of masculine and feminine energies. We all have masculine and feminine energy within us.

That being said, we all have a certain nature that we connect with more. Typically, men are more dominant in masculine energy and women are more dominant in feminine energy. However, there are some women whose nature is masculine and visa versa. There is no right or wrong.

When it comes to relationships, sexual attraction is at its highest when men and women are polarized. Opposites attract. If Tatiana and I are both operating in our masculine or feminine energy, there will not be as much attraction between us. This concept applies to everyone, no matter what your sexual orientation is. As Tantric author David Deida says, “All natural forces flow between two poles. The masculine and feminine poles between people create a flow of sexual energy in motion. 

Masculine energy is about focus, achievement, goal-setting, and planning, whereas feminine energy is more about flow, sensuality, creativity, and free-spiritedness. If you're a man, it's important for you to know how to cultivate masculine energy so that you are more attractive to your partner.

This may include engaging in competitive sports, working out, or being around other men. For women, this may include dancing, singing, painting, doing makeup or dressing up. It's up to you to go on a journey of self-discovery to determine what this cultivation process looks like for you.

This is the secret to creating love and passion with your partner.

A relationship cannot thrive on its own. It requires that two people come together and commit to doing the work to meet each other's needs. This is how your relationship will continue to grow in the most beautiful ways. There is no better feeling than spending your life with the person you love.

What principle will you implement in your relationship today? If you nurture your relationship, I promise that you will reap the rewards.

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Are you ready to find and attract your soulmate?

I believe that we all have a desire to experience love and connection.

My relationship with my fiancée, Tatiana is the most important thing in my life. No amount of money or success even comes close to the joy and happiness that she brings to my life.

In the words of Alexander Smith, “Love is but the discovery of ourselves in another, and the delight in the recognition.”

Your soulmate is looking for you. Are you open to finding and attracting him or her into your life? If so, I want to show you how.

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When you've found your soulmate, you know.

A soulmate is someone who is aligned with your soul and is sent to challenge, awaken and stir different parts of you in order for your soul to transcend to a higher level of consciousness. In my eyes, a soulmate is a symbol of ultimate spiritual growth. I beleive that we attract people into our lives for the purpose of our expansion.

When you're in a relationship, your deepest fears and insecurities show up. Unfortunately, when this happens, a lot of people build up emotional walls. They close off their hearts to love. In turn, these old wounds end up preventing them from finding their soulmate.

From an early age, I was looking for a special person to spend my life with. However, I wasn't always lucky in love. When I was 17 years old, I got into the self-development world because I was shy and insecure. At that stage of my life, my entire focus was on finding a girlfriend. I spent most of my early 20's single. When you have a deep desire for connection and love it can be frustrating when you keep coming up short. However, what's most important is that you don't give up.

I want to share with you the process that I went through for finding and attracting my soulmate. In doing so, I hope that it will inspire you, knowing that your person is out there, looking for you too.

1. Get clear on what you want

Start with getting clear on what your core values are in life. Make a list of the qualities that you want in a partner and determine which ones are non-negotiable. In a relationship, you don't need to agree on everything, but if there is a misalignment in values, conflict will ensue.

If you're single, use Valentine's Day as an opportunity to get clarity on the type of woman or man that you want to attract into your life. Creating a vision for who your ideal person is will make the process of finding him/her that much more exciting.

2. Determine who you need to become to attract your soulmate

Once you've determined the type of person you want to attract into your life, now you need to determine who you need to be in order to attract him/her. This is why it's so important to do the work to evolve and become the best version of yourself. You attract what you are.

We attract people at our common level of woundedness or our common level of health. Hence, if you keep bouncing from one failed relationship to another, you need to get real with yourself and determine the ways in which you aren't showing up. When you improve yourself and take responsibility for your life, you start attracting higher quality people into your world.

3. Understand your nature 

Before you can attract a soulmate into your life you need to understand what your true nature is. All of us have masculine and feminine energy. We embody these energies at different times, depending on what we are doing. However, we all feel more aligned to one type of energy over the other.

Your inner-masculine gets activated when you're taking charge and focused on your goals. Conversely, your inner-feminine is heightened when you're creating art, feeling emotions, and living in the flow of life. Whatever energy that you relate to the most is the one that you need to predominantly express when you are looking for a partner.

For years I struggled with being in my masculine because I was a very emotional and sensitive man. However, I soon realized that I wasn't able to attract a woman into my life because I wasn't embodying enough of my masculine energy. I forced myself to engage in activities that allowed me to tap into my masculine side.

When I did this, not surprisingly I became more attractive to women. Relationships thrive when there is a distinct polarity between the energies of two people. Hence, the more opposed two energies are, the higher the level of sexual attraction.

This is how to find and attract your soulmate.

Finding your soulmate is life is the ultimate reward. When you find the right person to spend your life with, nothing else will compare. Until then, I encourage you to focus on evolving and growing as a person. Think of how you can improve yourself and your life so that you are ready to invite a special someone into your life. You owe that to yourself and to your future soulmate.

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Do you feel something is missing in your life?

If you're an ambitious person but you feel like, deep down, you aren't fulfilled, this blog will benefit you.

Hopefully what I'm going to share with you will help you re-prioritize what matters in your life.

Most of us are living our lives like a donkey chasing a carrot. We have been conditioned to believe that happiness is something that we get. This is merely an illusion.

Nothing on the outside will ever complete you on the inside. Ready to figure out what may be truly missing in your life?

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Are you living in the present moment?

Unfortunately, a lot of people ruminate about the past or worry too much about the future. True joy is only found in the here and now. Happiness isn't something that you acquire. Rather, it's something you cultivate from the inside out. If you are constantly searching for happiness outside of yourself, it will always feel like something is missing in your life.

Hence, you may find yourself working tirelessly to fill the void that you feel through things or people. Oftentimes, it is the feeling of insignificance and a sense of scarcity that motivates people to pursue happiness through external things.

I'm here to tell you that there is nothing on the outside that will fix what is happening for you on the inside. This is why I believe in the power of self-development. What is missing for a lot of people is self-care.

You can't just wake up and live your life reacting to everything and everyone. This is a recipe for disaster. How do you expect to show up for others if you don't show up for yourself first? We are creatures of habit. However, when those habits are negative, we fall into the trap of feeling stuck and disempowered.

If you wake up every day, throw on a pot of coffee, eat some unhealthy food and rush out the door to work, you are only setting yourself up to fail. Research shows that a lack of a routine leads to decision fatigue. You end up wasting willpower making hundreds of tiny decisions which have little to no impact on your daily goals. Not surprisingly, every area of your life ends up being affected by this.

In order to ensure that I don't ever fall into this trap, I engage in a daily morning ritual that nourishes my mind, body, and spirit. I've been doing this since I was 17 years old. When you spend some time every morning filling yourself up, it's a way of saying, “I'm worthy and deserving.” This is an act of self-love in and of itself.

Do you feel something is missing in your life?

If so, I encourage you to create a morning ritual and practice it for at least one hour every day. Whatever you do, make it a must. If you do, not only are you going to start feeling different, but other people are going to notice a shift in your state as well. Over time, a ripple effect will occur and every area of your life will change for the better.

When you heal yourself from the inside out you experience a feeling of aliveness that is unlike anything in this world. Give yourself this gift. You deserve it. 

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Our marriage proposal in Santorini felt like something out of a fairytale.

It's fair to say that Santorini is one of the most romantic places on earth. Known as a honeymoon island, people from all over the world come to Santorini to propose to their special someone.

The picturesque sunset and crystal blue ocean view made for the perfect surprise proposal moment.

Proposing to Tatiana was the best decision that I've ever made in my life. Are you ready for a sneak peek of our romantic marriage proposal? It was a day that neither of us will ever forget.

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A marriage proposal is a lifetime commitment to your soulmate.

At heart, I am a hopeless romantic. Tatiana is my queen which means that she deserved a proposal fit for one. Santorini had been on my radar for a long time. I spent weeks preparing and planning for the big day because I wanted it to be perfect. I was nervous and excited, but never more sure about anything in my entire life.

Surrounded by black, red and white sand beaches, Santorini is the pearl of the Mediterranean. It literally exudes romance. From the moment that we arrived, Tatiana and I were mesmerized by the beauty of the island.

Let's backtrack a few years. The moment I met Tatiana I was in awe of her. Her feminine essence captivated me. She is my ideal woman – caring, smart, intelligent, beautiful and independent. I could go on and on.

From an early age, I had a very clear idea of the type of person that I wanted to find and attract into my life. Surprisingly, a few days before I met Tatiana, I had written out a list of qualities that I admired in a partner. All of the sudden, she popped up into my life unexpectedly. I remember thinking to myself, “How did I get so lucky?” And then I remembered all of the work that I had done to manifest her into my life.

You attract the type of energy that you put out into the Universe. Unfortunately, many people have no idea what energy they are transmitting until they take a close look at their thoughts. They are shocked when they realize that they've been focusing on what they don't want instead of what they do want.

If you want to attract an amazing person in your life, you need to be amazing yourself.

In order to find Tatiana, I had to do the work in order to be the man that she was already looking for AND the man that I wanted to be. I had a strong desire to become a more attractive person all around. This required that I took a long, hard look in the mirror and admit that I had faults. We all do, but not all of us are willing to face them.

I had to drop my ego and be open to improving. I developed my confidence and created unconditional love and respect for myself through a long and arduous self-development process. It's fair to say that I was willing to do anything to find my soulmate. On our very first date, I remember asking Tatiana what her vision and goals were for her future.

I didn't want either of us to waste our time. What is the point of two people being together if they aren't going in the same direction? I realized right away that this was a woman that knew what she wanted and how she was going to get it. Her drive was inspiring.

Tatiana and I created a vision for our future together early on in our relationship. We were clear on the direction that we want to go. Dr. John Gottman, the founder of The Gottman Institute in Seattle, said that couples who focus their energy on building something meaningful together in their life tend to last the longest. Every couple should have a shared relationship vision.

In order to do this, both you and your partner need to know what your vision is so that you can make sure that you are aligned.

Unfortunately, a lot of couples don't talk about their individual vision prior to diving into a long-term relationship. As a result, they end up encountering challenges down the road. I think that this is one of the many reasons why the divorce rate is so high. There is a no magic formula for a long-lasting relationship.

Healthy relationships require open and honest communication. One of the reasons why Tatiana and I have such a strong connection is because we make communication a top priority. People think differently, which means that they have different needs. This is why I'm a big believer that it's important to know yours and your partner's love language.

In his bestselling book, The Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman guides you through the process of identifying and speaking your partner's love language. The 5 love languages are words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch.

When you know what makes your partner needs in order to feel understood and appreciated in a relationship, it allows your love for one another to grow. Chapman's book has been a game changer for Tatiana and I. We know that great relationships take work. This is why we created a relationship journal very early on in our relationship. Your partner cannot possibly know what you are feeling unless you express it to him or her.

To this day, Tatiana and I do monthly check-ins with one another where we sit down and create a safe space where we can share our feelings. We talk about what we adore about one another, whether or not our love languages are being met, and how we can be a better partner.

At the end of the day, love is a choice.

Tatiana and I aren't special in any way. We are just two people that are committed to showing up for one another, every single day while becoming the best versions of ourselves in the process. As a result, we've been able to create a solid foundation for our relationship that keeps getting better with time.

I've been blessed to create a lot of success in my life. However, nothing that I've achieved even comes close to the love and adoration that I have for Tatiana. Now that we both have successful online businesses, we have the freedom to design our lives as we choose.

We love, travel, grow, and work, side by side. It's a dream come true and we created it. I can't wait for this new chapter that we are about to embark on together.

Our marriage proposal will forever be etched into our hearts.

Love is life’s most powerful and greatest gift. When you find the one, don't let them go. Every day I wake up feeling so blessed to have Tatiana in my life. We are both so excited about our future together. Santorini will always be our special place.

If you have yet to meet your special someone, trust that you will. There is a time for everyone and yours will come. Your ideal partner is out there, waiting for you! Do the work to become the future you that your person is searching for.

In the words of Kenny Loggins, “A soulmate is the one person whose love is powerful enough to motivate you to meet your soul, to do the emotional work of self-discovery.”

Learning how to overcome jealousy in a relationship is critical to creating a long-lasting relationship based on trust, respect, and unconditional love.

Let's face it, jealousy is one of the most unattractive qualities in someone. More often than not, it takes on a life of its own. It can make both partners feel like they are walking on eggshells most of the time. The result? Feelings of anger, resentment, and insecurity. By definition, jealousy is the killer of relationships.

If you struggle with jealousy in your relationship, it is important to understand the root cause of jealousy so that you and your partner can choose a more productive response the next time a trigger occurs.

Are you ready to learn how to overcome jealousy?

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Jealousy in relationships can be toxic.

The problem with jealousy is that many people don't know where it comes from. Oftentimes, it is masking other deep-seeded insecurities that one partner is too ashamed to admit to the other. When people don't communicate how they are feeling to one another, the situation only becomes worse.

In the four years that my girlfriend Tatiana and I have been together, I can't recall very many moments when either of us experienced jealousy in our relationship. There are certain principles that we want to share with you that have led us to be so confident in our relationship and in ourselves.

Jealousy is a fear-based emotion that shows up in the form of insecurity. Psychologists call this an “inferiority complex,” which refers to an underlying impoverished ego or low self-esteem. Jealousy shines a spotlight on our weaknesses.

When we get triggered by external events in our lives, it's our job to explore what is going on inside of ourselves. When you experience jealousy, take a step back and ask yourself, “What about this situation triggered me to react in this way?” Where is this fear coming from?” Identify and define your fear.

You cannot control the external world. The only thing that you can control is how you respond to it.

Maybe you were cheated on in the past and you are still carrying emotional wounds from a previous relationship. As a result, you may feel jealous when your partner even talks to someone else because it triggers pain inside of you.

You need to realize that the past does not equal the future. If you don't do the work to move on from past jealousy, you will sabotage your current relationship. Once you know what is going on inside of you, then you can take the steps to improve yourself and your relationship.

Tatiana gets looked at and approached by men all the time, especially now that she has become an online influencer. I could easily get jealous, possessive, and angry when guys write comments about her on her YouTube channel or private message her on Instagram, but it doesn't even cross my mind.

Here are 3 reasons why Tatiana and I don't experience jealousy in our relationship.

1. We Have High Self-Confidence

I have confidence in who I am as a human being, a man, and a partner. I know that I'm worth it and trust that I can provide Tatiana with value in a way that nobody else can. It sounds arrogant, but it's not. I believe in the connection, passion, and love that we have for one another. I believe that there is no better match on this planet for her than me and she feels the same way about me. We have a soul connection that is eternal.

Maybe there is someone better for both of us, but my belief empowers and serves us in our relationship. It gives us that certainty and security in ourselves and as a couple. If you want to identify what your value is, create a list of the qualities that make you a great catch.

Why are you special? What can you offer your partner that nobody else can? 

I may not receive as many inappropriate messages as Tatiana does, but she understands my masculine energy. Even though we are in a committed relationship, that doesn't mean that Tatiana may not be attracted to another man, and vice versa. We could get jealous by this, but we have so much confidence in our relationship that it doesn't bother us.

2. We Have Strong Communication Skills

Tatiana and I have built up so much trust that in our relationship because we make communication a top priority. When you have that type of connection with someone anything can be discussed, without fear of being turned down or mocked.

Tony Robbins teaches people about the six human needs  – certainty, variety, connection, love, growth, and contribution. Certainty is a big one. If two people don't have a high level of certainty in their relationship, then it is more likely that jealousy will occur.

However, when two people believe that they are a going to spend the rest of their lives together, there is no room for fear, doubt, or worry. You have to build this certainty and confidence in one another. It doesn't magically happen.

Tatiana and I allow each other to communicate our needs so that we understand what each of us needs. If I have a moment of jealousy, I express it because I know that she won't judge me. We've created that safe container and it's served our relationship well.

3. We Live From A Place Of Abundance

Tatiana is her own person. She has the right to be happy in life. That is what I want for her. If she would rather be happier with someone else than me, then I would want that for her. Yes, I want to be with her for the rest of my life and I would be sad if we parted. However, I'm never going to inhibit her desires because of my selfish needs. When you want the best for one another, you give each other the freedom to be themselves.

A friend of mine once shared with me a very powerful relationship analogy. A woman or a man is like a butterfly that has landed in your hand. It's beautiful. You want to cherish and appreciate it. However, a lot of people end up suffocating the one person that they love. They become controlling, domineering, and overly protective. They give them rules about what they can and cannot do.

If you do this, that butterfly will feel trapped and resentful. It may fly away. This is the worst thing that you can do. You have to be okay and comfortable with that butterfly just being in your life. That man or woman in your life could leave you. You have to be comfortable with that idea.

It's only when someone has the freedom to leave that they decide to stay.

If you don't give it to them, that is the beginning of the end. In the words of Thich Nhat Hanh, “If our love is only a will to possess, it is not love.”

Tatiana doesn't put any rules on me, nor do I on her. We both have enough maturity to make educated and smart decisions, based on our values and the trust that we have in our relationship.

When you live from a place of abundance, there is no room for jealousy because you and your partner have developed a high level of trust. With this mindset, there is no room for fear. This is when you know that you are truly aligned with your partner.

These are our solutions for how to overcome jealousy in a relationship.

Make sure to check out Tatiana's YouTube channel, which provides a lot of great tips and strategies for the modern day woman.

If jealousy is destroying your relationship, I encourage you to adopt some of the principles that Tatiana and I have shared with you. Love is a beautiful thing. Always strive to grow and improve yourself and the connection that you have with your partner. Doing so will allow both of you to become better people and better partners.

In the words of Toni Payne, “Be with someone who wants you to grow.”

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